Category: Overcoming Adversity

Daniel Adam’s Graduation Spotlight

I’m pleased to present Daniel Adams as a new Mindset Mastery Honors Graduate!  

Daniel has been on quite a journey. In his words:

For 10 years of marriage I’ve pursued some different jobs here and there, and I’ve basically floated wondering what the secret to prosperity is. I’ve mimicked all sorts of people and strategies, and when I read that line [in Jackrabbit Factor] about Harold Ashway barking like a dog, I cried pretty hard, because 10 years is a long time to do that.

It is amazing to experience different thinking, and original ideas, and actually plant them. I love how sequential and thorough this [Mindset Mastery] course is, I love how it builds on everything I’ve done up this point…

I love how this course fits so closely with the instincts and principles I’ve learned in church and in life. It resonates. And it’s working.

Daniel currently works as a relationship coach strengthening families, awakening creativity, and inspiring people to step into the fullness of their Creator-ship. Experience his work firsthand at www.YouCanCreate.org.

From struggling to achieve his goals, to doubling his income:

November 27, 2018

I made a goal statement to double our families income starting in October so we could build the kingdom of God, liberated from the scarcity we were vibrating.

[What happened?] A tour guide company approached me and asked me to take guests on hikes at some pretty cool places at an awesome rate. You guys, I ❤️ this game!! The RESULTS from this course have been AMAZING!

And yes, the income doubled. What a fun way to do it! 💖💖💖

But BEFORE Daniel was ready to double his income, he needed to first practice the principles in Phase 1 on a smaller goal, an important step for gaining the confidence needed for bigger goals. 

Here was his smaller goal, in his words:

July 1, 2018

I made a grocery list with the ingredients for fajitas on it, and lettuce, and Greek yogurt, and chips, and mango salsa 💃🏻. We had chosen to budget funds elsewhere, so we hadn’t really been buying real food, for like, some months. So I was pretty excited about testing [my Phase 1 goal on] this grocery list.

I pulled my wife into the living room and we looked at our kitchen, and holding hands we envisioned our cupboards full and the fridge full with all the yumminess on our list. We tasted it, felt the coolness and sweetness of it, heard the crunch of bell peppers and felt the juice in our mouths. She had fun ideas that I hadn’t thought of.

And then I submitted the list over our counter to The Master Chef I was envisioning—I heard we have to put in our own orders.

Two days later I was building a shed on a mountain property and I opened the cooler someone had brought, and there sat the Black Pepper Turkey I asked for. Later that night my sister-in-law cooked corn on the cob and cut a juicy watermelon, also on our list.

I was pumped! And it gets better.

The week after that, my wife was in charge of running a summer camp for teen girls, and our church’s budget paid for the camp food, which sat in our fridge. It was, of course, a bunch of the stuff on our list, so we thought, “Okay, we’ll be more specific next time about it being ours.” Ha. Bummer it’s in our fridge and headed elsewhere else, but we’re happy to serve.

After the camp, the participants donated ALL of the leftover food, which had pretty much everything else on that grocery list.

That was three weeks ago, and we’re still eating fajitas and yogurt.

The night before it came, I took matters into my own hands and bought some of what was on the list. Those items showed up triple of what I bought. We had a good laugh about relying on our own strength.

With his newfound confidence from successfully achieving his Phase 1 goal, he was ready to apply Rare Faith to accomplishing something bigger.

But it didn’t go the way he hoped.

First attempt at the Phase 2 goal – failed:

He writes:

August 9, 2018

[After] …the Mindset Mastery course showed up miraculously in May, …miracle after miracle kept lining up… money from places we had never expected, rich relationships, and transformational healing events and scholarships to them. SO MUCH to be grateful for!!

So in module 13 I was so pumped to make something really impactful. I’ve always wanted to run seminars and retreats, and now I had all the tools to do it. I went all in. I posted the goal statement all around my house about running a seminar. And I felt it, and I knew it was happening:

I meditated and visualized and sensitized on the specifics: where it was, who was there, programming for guests, how they would feel, how I would feel, the grateful hugs we’d share, content for the workshops, how much to charge, and asked everyday, “What do I do next”?

I went WAY out of my comfort zone making requests and inquiries and building relationships all over the community and the internet.

[What happened?] The spa gave me a discount on space rental without me asking. …Two powerful marketers showed up and offered free, detailed advise about how to fill the event. Various contacts invited me to come to their yoga studios and promo the event. And then people started showing interest!!

His battle with the terror barrier:

[But] then the terror barrier showed up as we used our savings month after month… and many of my music therapy clients moved on… and all of a sudden we needed this retreat to sell (can you feel the lack creeping in), and I fought inside myself: can I really live this life? Who am I to make a difference and live my dreams?

One by one, guests backed out or postponed for one reason or another. Monday was the day the resort asked for a final count and I got to report “ZERO…” 

I cried 😢 and… [felt] disappointed…

Ironically, the goal statement did get fulfilled—every word… The goal was that I would “create & facilitate a powerful retreat for 12 women at such and such resort on Aug 8-11”. [But]…facilitate in Spanish and Portuguese means “to make easy”.

There I was at the resort [on the day I set the goal for…] creating and facilitating [making easy] a retreat for women. 

The [fact that the] resort was willing to partner on the event, discount both my cost and guest cost even further, take on the marketing, and offer it multiple times a year was pretty miraculous. And it all happened on the day I set the goal—Aug 8. … the agreements with the resort WERE easy… Win-win-win-win-win for anyone involved.

Rad. 😆 and frustrating 😠because I put a lot of energy into getting that goal statement just right, but the appearance is that [it won’t be until] December [that] I’ll be paid for it…

[But] all our learning always counts. Nothing is wasted. And now I get to set some different goals, with complete confidence that this process really works.

…Perhaps the largest shift is the one in myself. I’ve been so worried (I know what that attracts) about how to make money, that I forgot the part about how when you provide more value than you consume, money is a natural flow.

A slice of humble pie:

…to be applying for part time jobs at $12 this week is a pretty awesome slice of humble pie 🥧 [but] because gratitude is needed in every leg of the journey… I really can make impact on the path or off it.

And when you catch multiple rabbits, does it really matter how long it takes? 

Nope.

Randy Mollup’s line about being grateful for sandwiches and watching them get bigger and better brought tears to me, and I realized where I’ve been in conceited mis-alignment.  …we’re still safe… a little bruised… and pride wounded. [But] I choose to be on the “plus side” of the stickman.

So Daniel regrouped, doubled his income, and then re-set the dream goal to put on a successful retreat. In his words:

January 27, 2019

I made a goal to create retreats for women around Identity. It’s been in the hopper since June 2018. My mind told me so many times:

“You need an email list first.” “You need an instagram following first.” “You need a big name speaker.” “You need different/better credentials behind your name.” “You need blog content.” “Women should be leading women, you have no place here.” “Who will come to the first retreat you offer, what do you even have to offer?”

I made an offering in August that ZERO people signed up for, and that hurt. I felt failure and I disconnected from the goal. 

Until Leslie challenged me to keep going.

So I kept going. And I told my mind to be kind…a lot.
And I said my goal statement…a lot.
And was open to a lot of pivots along the way.

And I FELT my vibration change.

There were lots of time I felt like quitting, and lots of times it felt bleak, lots of time things got a little wild between Tina and I, and each time I got to pivot, and re-align, re-commit and state my goal statement and really feel it. The event itself underwent quite the transition and finally ended up as:

“Women’s Weekend: You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to Be Powerful”

…which featured music experientials, guided meditations, visual art experientials, Tina lecturing on perfectionism, individual coaching sessions, and vision board creation:

And I’m really proud of what I made!
And proud of all the resources that came together for my ‘Why’
And proud of the impact this event had on the participants lives, and in their homes, and in their communities, and in the Kingdom (and Queendom 👸 of God)

But check out what Daniel concluded:

…I thought I would somehow like myself more if I met my goal. Nope. Seems like that comes first 💖💕🙏

Daniel’s end-of-course Comments:

I left my job in November 2017 convinced I was ready to create the dream life I wanted: balanced between work and family, with extensive travel, and giving beautiful high vibration service to passionate souls. When this course came to my wife and I … in May 2018 I knew it was impactful, and looking back today the impact runs SOOOOOO much deeper than I realized.

I’m experiencing tears. The joy and hope I felt as I engaged in the material for this course … has been super needed and super valuable. It has impacted my marriage in a huge way…

This course has changed my relationship with God. I don’t see Him as punitive; I see the laws as providing consequence and Him rooting for me to become a master creator!

The applications of law hurt sometimes, and were joyous sometimes, and everywhere in between.

…I had so much anger and sadness and fear come up around ‘not doing it right’, and around failing, around offering something that zero people paid for. …I had never failed so big or so hard. Going to my parents and in-laws for groceries and rent money was the scariest thing I’ve ever done—a far more intense terror barrier than selling the retreat.

I felt lower than I ever had, and listless, and shaken. But every time I read a lesson I felt hope, and during lesson 19 I picked a new goal, to take our monthly income from $1,500 to at least $4,000.

People [began] approaching me asking for services in my zone of genius, a super successful mentor offered me a free and powerful sales training, and I’ve been practicing it with a guitar coaching idea I had, with 100% conversion so far. I’ve created new contracts all over my area and It’s blowing me away how quickly this new goal is manifesting. I [was able] to come back to the retreat idea, and I’m gaining more and more confidence creating goal statements that get me exactly what I want…

The structure of this course has been so good for me. Hearing Leslie’s stories of success, failure, and pivoting have been so meaningful to me. Sometimes the time just isn’t right, so reload and come back to it!

This [Mindset Mastery] course has provided SO much VALUE. It’s the first time I’ve felt my dreams were really feasible and possible. The course is so concrete. I’m a completely different person than I was in May, excited to serve and provide value to others!! Thank you Mindset Mastery!!

Daniel, you really stuck with it and followed through!

Congratulations, Daniel! You’ve done an amazing job! 

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What’s YOUR story going to be?

I want to see YOU graduate, too!

Learn more about the Mindset Mastery program HERE.

Our next GUIDED session begins March 27th – Click to learn more about the GUIDED version.

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The Mindset Mastery Program is not to be confused with the Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse.

The Fundamentals Ecourse is a powerful exploration of the principles that govern success, and takes an introductory approach for effective goal setting. It also fills the gaps to give you a basic but complete understanding of the principles, so that you have a solid foundation on which to develop true mastery. 

By contrast, the Mastery Program is focused on the *implementation* of the principles and the *achievement* of your goals. It is full of interesting assignments that take you step-by-step through two experimental goals, challenging your thought processes, helping you experience success, and setting up a pattern in your thinking that you will be able to utilize over and over for effectiveness with all of your future goals. I hope you’ll join me in one of these programs, to help you take your understanding and success to the next level in ALL the different areas of your life. Learn more about the difference HERE.

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When life is falling apart

Michelle posted the following question:

Hi, so my husband and I have been trying to live these principles for about a year now. We have seen it work in our lives, even before we read your books. We are saving money to buy your more advanced course. We are changing our thoughts and our language, which has not been easy for me, as I have lived with anxiety for the last 17 years. We are seeing a shift in our mental dialogue. We have some very lofty goals that we are excited to manifest.

The question I have has to do with changing the dialogue when you are in a job that you hate, doesn’t make enough money, and there is no space for promotion or increase of monetary value. My husband works about 60 hours per week and makes about 2000 every two weeks.

We have 8 children and our house is falling apart. My husband can do all the work to fix the plumbing problems, but he has no time. We can’t, at this moment afford to pay someone else to do it for us. We are both stressed out about it. He is very positive about it, but there are times where he can’t see a way to fix the problem. We have a very small set of skills between us. I have been stay at home mom for 17 years and we just had a new baby in December of this past year. My husband had to have back surgery a couple of years ago. He had a great job, but had to leave due to inability to do the work, because of his back, so now we make much less.

We tried to start our own business and don’t all our capital to do it, only to realize my husband has a difficult time doing jobs where people have expectations. He is amazing at everything, but he gets major anxiety. So, we are where we are at this point. I hope you don’t mind me messaging you, but we really want things to change. I know part of the change is being grateful for where we are.

Can you give me some insight? I am taking your Mindset Fundamentals course and that is helping a lot … but I am still stuck with this. It’s like I can see how we will be fine financially when I know we are going to get chunks of money, like tax return coming, but like you said in, I think lesson 8 of your course, it is so frustrating to get those bigger chunks because you want to make sure it goes to the right things, but when it runs out there is no flow, so you’re more stressed out.

We have ideas on creating flow, but are unable to see how to get there at this moment. I know it will come, but I know I need to trust I have enough now and be grateful for what we have. Any advice or inspiration would be so helpful. I know you probably don’t help this way, but if you do see this and you feel compelled to offer words of wisdom I would appreciate.

Life seems to be falling apart more the last couple of weeks that we have been investing in living this way than it has before. It just feels chaotic and overwhelming. Thank you for all that you have written and put together. We are extremely passionate about these principles and can see the truth of them in reading the scriptures and we know that Heavenly Father has led us to read your books to help us fulfill the plan for which he has placed us here. We are grateful for the future that has been created in us. I just need help to be grateful for where we are now.

Here is my response:

Hi Michelle, the good news is it doesn’t matter how chaotic or impossible things seem to be. God has a way of sustaining us and giving us what we need in the moment we need it as we choose to take a deep breath and trust him. It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do – it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. And the only way to figure out how to do that is by trying and trying until you succeed.

You can’t do what I’m talking about unless life IS a chaotic mess… it’s the only path to discovering it’s true. Dare to believe that he’ll give you what you need today. As you get to the end of the day, look back and take notice of the things that went well. Are you still breathing? Are you fed? Do you have a roof over your head still? Look at that – he provided.

I would encourage you to listen to the podcasts if you aren’t already. There’s one that I’m trying to get published but it’s been held up in production called “Keep Calm and Watch What Happens”. Until that gets posted, try doing what the title suggest. When you feel the stress build, choose to be calm with the intention to see what being calm causes… keep repeating that to yourself “keep calm, and watch what happens…”

I dare you to test it. Let go of the need for things to be your way in your time. Practice being calm and let the Lord provide in HIS time, in His way. I promise you will see better results as you do that, than if you continue to fuss and fret that it isn’t already the way you think it should be.

Michelle replied:

That is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you for your response. I had been telling myself, “Good thing, bad thing, who knows.” But I need to remember to be calm and watch. I will look forward to that podcast. I have been absorbing so much and it is bringing life into our lives. Thank you!

For more on this topic, visit www.prosperthefamily.com

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If something is a struggle, is it right?

Lisa writes:

Hi Leslie, I am sure you are totally busy, but I am just really bummed out right now. I am currently attending the University of Phoenix online to get my psychology degree. I am taking a philosophy class which I thought I would love, turns out the instructor is very picky so I am not enjoying or doing well in this class.

I read once that if something is a struggle, then it is not the right thing to be doing. If I am meant to be doing something than it should be inspired and easy flowing. I want to be a life coach and thought that with a degree in psychology, it might make things better.

I am worried too because I am getting financial aid and if I fail this class I may have to end up paying for the class or pay loans back or something which will put me further in the hole. I am just sitting here wondering what I am doing and really very upset. I didn’t know who to turn to or even what to do right now, So I guess I just needed to vent. I am scared, lets just say that. I am at work right now, if I wasn’t I would be crying. – Lisa C.

My response:

Hi Lisa!

First of all, take a deep, deep breath.

Second of all, let me add my perspective on the comment, “if something is a struggle, then it is not the right thing to be doing.” I think there is some truth to that, but it’s been twisted.

I gave birth to a few kids, and every one of those labors was a TREMENDOUS struggle. That doesn’t mean in the least that it wasn’t the right thing to do. The truth is that ANYthing worth having is worth struggling for. The key is to keep your “WHY” vivid and alive. When you lose sight of why you’re putting yourself through something tough, then the pain is only magnified. When you remember the people whose lives you’ll change forever, the passion and the dream of that expectation is anesthesia that dulls the pain.

I can’t tell you how many times my husband and I thought, “We can do anything, as long as it gets us closer to our goal, and as long as we know it’s temporary.” We always said that about the un-fun things we had to do along the way.

Furthermore, if you give up now just because it isn’t fun anymore, then how will you ever be qualified to coach someone else through their struggles?

If I were you, I’d do what I could to remember the Law of Polarity and the Law of Rhythm, especially now. As horrible as this is, is how wonderful the reward will be on the other side. If it’s only a little bit bad, then the reward will only be a little bit good. If things are bad today, you can expect an upturn in your mood soon enough. Look forward to it, expect it. Be grateful for the pain today, because it is only through that pain that there could possibly be meaning in the victory.

As for the “flow” concept, yes, things can go smoothly and you can have that peace of mind being in the flow. But it is an internal thing. Life will always deliver challenges. ALWAYS. Life mastery means finding peace of mind and assurance that everything is going to be okay no matter what. When you live in that kind of a state of being, then the resources you need begin to flow your way more naturally. But remember, you’ve got to achieve that mindset before it flows, and that mindset can only be achieved in the middle of hardship. (Anyone can find peace of mind when life is going smoothly; the best rewards come from finding it when life is NOT going smoothly. That’s what separates the winners from the crowd.)

So, in reality, your hardship right now is a tremendous gift to you – you’re being given the opportunity to prove your mental toughness and demonstrate right thinking in spite of it. Pass the test and you leap to a new level of life success. Without the hardship, you would have no opportunity to prove yourself, and no corresponding reward would be waiting.

Anyway, I know this probably isn’t what you wanted to hear, but I hope you find it helpful.

Hang in there – a better day is coming if you respond to this the right way. Think, “How would a champion handle this? How would a highly successful success coach handle this?” You’ve got it inside of you to conquer this – be kind to yourself. Do your best and let God handle the rest. Whatever the outcome is, chalk it up to your experience that adds to the value you’ll have to offer your future clients.

Warmest regards, 🙂

Leslie

Lisa’s reply:

Thank you so so much Leslie! It means so much to me that you took time out to write me back! I love every bit of your reply. It all makes perfect sense! Again thank you so much! Just what I needed.

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Feeling guilty – Moms and Money

Question from Wendy:

Leslie,

I have a question that I hope you can help me with. In reading lesson 13 or 14 [of Mindset Mastery] I found part of the answer in your “temporary imbalance”. This is a good analogy and seems to answer the question about juggling the needs of your children while trying to run a successful business.

[But] I am struggling with some baggage that I can’t seem to figure out what to do with.

The baggage is this– sometimes I let my children be my excuse why I can’t succeed – it seems to be like the “money is evil” thing for me. But it is “mom’s who make money aren’t as righteous as mom’s who stay home full time and take care of their children.” Logically, I have several problems with this. One being that I have an Aunt who has all her children grown and she is now trying to get into her married son’s business and insist they have a grand baby for her?? Ok, so that is too weird, certainly, but I can see that it is because she dedicated her whole life to her children, and had nothing once that they all left. Surely our ultimate goal as parents is to put our selves out of a job, but it seems that there is a very fine balance between being to involved outside the home, and not having a life outside of your children…

I am currently working full time as an RN while my husband is in school full time. This has been really hard on our family and although I love the work I do, it always pulls me away from my children. I went from being a full time stay home homeschooling mom, to full time work almost over night after my husband came home from work complaining of stroke-like symptoms. This, after multiple “smaller warnings” from his body that he was not doing well. Anyway, in the car with 5 of my children wondering what I will do if my husband dies (not a happy drive home), I decided that I would have to get my RN license back and start working again. We have chosen to only have one person working at a time, always trying to have a stay home parent. This has been good for my husband’s health issues and given him the needed time to go back to school and go into a field that I hope will bring him fulfillment and joy, as well as provide well for our family.

So I guess I am hoping you have some ways that (as an LDS woman who is striving to make money) you have overcome this conflict. I guess I assume you have had to deal with it as I have in relief society and in homeschool groups. Not that what they think is really important to me, except it is what my “programming” is already saying.

Any help you have and ideas that will help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks, Wendy

Here’s my Answer:

Hi Wendy,

I wish I had time to spill all my guts about this one… it’s been a wrenching journey of my own to come to a conclusion I feel good about, and I am pretty sure it’s going to be part of what comes out in the Jackrabbit Factor sequel [update: which it did – read it free at PortaltoGenius.com], but let me just say this:

I’m convinced that Beverly Cleaver did our society a disservice. Since when in ALL of history, since God created the world, has woman EVER been able to sit at home and dust the shelves and read to her kids all day? She has always worked the fields, and done all kinds of manual labor just to keep the home running. What have all of our conveniences done for us? Should they have justified our right to watch tv with the kids and fold laundry while we’re entertained? Or should it have freed us up to make a more meaningful contribution, not just to our families, but to humanity at large? For what other purpose was the Relief Society organized? To make crafts for our home so that it can be the beautiful place where we teach our children that it’s wrong for mother to work?

Don’t get me wrong – I think it’s always better if the mother can be the one who is home. But as the prophets have said, sometimes there has to be individual adaptations, and you can be grateful that you have a marketable skill that can help in your situation with an ailing husband. Either way, kids need a nurturing parent, and they need to SEE how we make our contributions to the family and to others. It sets an example of industry.

And (as you’ll see more completely in your Mindset Mastery lessons), what matters more that what you do is how you feel about what you’re doing, and how you talk about it with the kids. Things really changed when I stopped apologizing to them for being so busy, and instead rallied their help for the cause, because “this is what our family does.”

I also strongly believe that when women’s traditional labors were turned over to automatic machinery, that should have freed us up to follow and act upon the sparks in our hearts that God gave us to make a difference in society… to bring RELIEF to our SOCIETY, in whatever form or fashion we feel driven.

Yes, it’s easier to work outside the home sometimes. There are less distractions, and a great feeling of being appreciated. I’ve been there. It can lure a person into a permanent set up, which has in some cases lead to the disintegration of the family. You have to follow the Spirit and do the right thing for your family, no matter what anyone else may say or think. If you’re doing what the Spirit directs, you don’t have to worry about the outcome.

It’s not the easy thing to combine motherhood with the work we do. But it’s possible, and during those temporary seasons of imbalance, the children’s dormant abilities will begin to sprout.

For example, my kids have learned that sometimes if they want dinner, they have to step up to the plate and make it happen. When they are motivated by a need, it’s no longer an assigned chore, it’s a contribution to the family, and they feel the psychic reward that comes from stepping into leadership of their own choice. If they choose to go hungry instead, then they get what they choose. I know this sounds harsh, but it’s life… and where better to learn it than in the home? Even my 5 year old has learned that she can be responsible for feeding herself a sandwich or cereal if something hasn’t been made FOR her.

What about the family meals around the table? We do those as often as we reasonably can, because we feel those are important. Like I said, I’m talking about temporary seasons of imbalance – not permanent ones.

Well, this is already more than I planned to say, but hopefully it’s helpful. Believe me when I say I’ve felt guilty for working as much as I do, but I have to wonder, why on earth would God give me the ideas I get if he didn’t want me to do something with them? Every time I deny them, I feel the Spirit leave. Every time I honor them, and develop them, even at the expense of getting the laundry done or whatever, I feel the Spirit supporting and guiding me. I’ve had to come to the conclusion that it’s the adversary who wants me to shrink and NOT do all I know I can do.

Even my patriarchal blessing says: “Have faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and in your work as well, and you shall accomplish the purposes you have in mind.” When I got the blessing, that part really bothered me, because I didn’t want to have any work to do. I just wanted to be Mom. I had no idea that I had a work to do, but now I know it’s true, and I cannot let anyone else’s opinion of how I spend my time get in the way of it.

The scripture that has given me the most peace about it is this one from Proverbs 31:

10 ¶ Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She ariseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

To me, this means that the picture-perfect wife at home doing light domestic chores and coddling the kids cannot compare to a woman who is THIS busy. Thank heavens… because I wouldn’t want anyone to come take a picture of ME while I do what I do all day long! When you’re as busy as I am with seven children and an international business that we run out of our home, there isn’t time to keep my hair in highlights, or my fingernails in acrylic. I’m lucky if I get a shower sometimes. And I LOVE my life – wouldn’t have it any other way. There is so much joy in being industrious.

I’m not one who runs a perfect better-homes-and-garden household and struggles with the feeling of: “I don’t know who I am anymore”! Furthermore, when the kids are gone, I will not be left wondering, “So, now what do I do??”

Again, I love my life and I know I’m doing the right thing. I haven’t always been so sure, but I’ve scrutinized each step along the way, hoping I was making the right choice, and have been glad I did. I don’t question it so much anymore. I’m sure there is a “right” path for you, too. It may be different than what you think, so just stay open minded and ask for direction and peace of mind about it as you go.

Sincerely,

Leslie

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