Unplanned Movie Review

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What would a woman feel, watching this movie, if she has already had an abortion? 

My husband and I saw Unplanned last night. This is the first time we’ve ever paid to watch an R-rated film at the theater, but trusted the feedback from friends who said the MPAA rating was “off”.

I really only had ONE main question on my mind:

*** What would a woman feel, watching this movie, if she has already had an abortion? ***

It was rated R for graphic and disturbing images by the MPAA, an admission that dismembering a fetus with a vacuum is disturbing. So in many parts of the country, a girl can GET an abortion without parent consent, but she can’t WATCH a movie about abortion without it.

So, was the movie only made for pro-lifers?
Who else would even WANT to see it?

This was my curiosity.

I wanted to watch the movie through the eyes of women who, perhaps at one time, found themselves in a crisis pregnancy of their own, who felt like they had no other options, and who were pressured to abort.

How would THESE women feel, watching an anti-abortion movie? How could they possibly WANT to watch it, at the risk of feeling triggered by memories of their own trauma, or of feeling movie-induced guilt? (Having not yet seen it, but assuming this is what the movie would cause.)

Why would ANYONE want to subject themselves to that?

I had to find out if I could recommend the movie to THESE women.

I read reviews that said that the movie was about LOVE and REDEMPTION, but none of the trailers really provided any significant glimpses into that. They all seemed to focus on horror and grief.

But, like many movies, I found that the action reel was NOT an accurate representation of the experience this film provided.

I don’t know if I should offer a spoiler-alert here, because the movie’s power doesn’t rely on surprises – it’s relatively predictable. But I’m going to share some things that are not revealed in the trailers.

First of all, the disturbing images happen during the early scenes of the film, showing one woman’s narrated experience with having a vacuum aspirated abortion, and then later a chemically-induced abortion (from a pill). The rest of the movie shows how she deals with the memory of her experiences.

At first, she buries the memories as deeply as she can, and throws herself into the cause of helping other women in crisis, dedicating her life to giving women the care they need. Her passion and heart for helping women is genuine.

But then… (insert trailer clip here)…

… and she spends the next segment of the film dealing with her feelings of deep regret for her own abortions, and for participating at a leadership level in an organization that was consciously deceiving thousands of women in crisis who were given mistruths about their procedures, and who were not fully informed of their options.

The movie was masterful at helping the viewer feel a good deal of what this woman felt all along the spectrum (as this is a true story). In the end, you feel (with her) a complete sense of being healed – her memories are still sad and probably always will be, but the remorse, horror, and grief is powerfully resolved, and she feels wholly loved, forgiven, and restored.

If someone had told me this before watching the film, I’m not sure I would have believed it was possible – not possible to experience, let alone possible to portray on the big screen. But I am convinced that this movie speaks truth. It illustrates how God can reach and restore a person, no matter how dark, fallen, or lost that person may feel. Here is a woman that was complicit in over 20,000 fetal terminations AND came to feel the full weight of it – but then ultimately felt that burden lifted. Watch the movie to feel her healing with her.

To sum up, if you or anyone you know has had an abortion or participated in one, and want to feel and remember it differently than perhaps you do now, I strongly encourage you to watch the movie.

I’m now convinced that these women are exactly who the movie was made for.

I invite you to see and feel it all, even the darker side of it, because feeling her Godly sorrow with her is precisely what makes the feelings of relief, joy, and awe possible.

#unplanned #lawofpolarity #rarefaith

Learn more here -> https://www.unplannedfilm.com/

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Examples of faith in daily life

Enjoy this interview by Scott Wilhite, as we talk about examples of faith in daily life.

Show notes:

Examples of faith in daily life

  • When you need the bank to reverse an overdraft fee
  • Driving through scary traffic
  • Late for a meeting
  • Relationship trouble – picture and feel the desired outcome (radio broadcast)
  • Finding lost wallet – Nick
  • When you worry, if the worst case happens then you’ve lived it twice
  • Bill due? Imagine it paid. Feel gratitude now, and always
  • This is mastering your mindset.
  • Woman wrote me about her daughter who shot her hand

For more about my story, visit ProspertheFamily.com

To learn more about Scott and his video series, “Are We Novice Gods”, visit ScottWilhite.com

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When the husband isn’t providing

I’d like to share a powerful example of how this work (of learning to live by Rare Faith) can impact the family. The following is shared with permission, from one of our Mindset Mastery Program participants. Wendy writes:

I would like to share a significant A-ha moment about money and marriage that has been percolating over the past year.

For 3 years I’ve been trying to turn my side-hustle hobby into one full-time, highly lucrative business. I knew I had emotional baggage around money and especially around my husband+money.

Money and Marriage has been a toxic mix for nearly 20 years now. A year ago I started working with a mindset coach for my biz but it extended into my family relationships, etc, because that’s where a lot of my baggage was centered.

Last summer I had an assignment from her to emotionally and mentally “unplug” myself from needing my husband to provide for me. Yes, that might sound obvious to some of you, but it was a deeply ingrained message from when I was a tiny girl. That message had set me up to create a co-dependent relationship with my spouse and left me feeling crippled every time I tried to create financial income for myself.

Instead I would manipulate, hen-peck, and try to “coach” my husband into being the financial fixer/savior for me and our children. It says a lot about his character that he still loves/likes me after all of that ^. *Ugh*

Anyway, shortly after that unplugging assignment I started listening to the Rare Faith podcasts, introduced my husband to them, and we both started to change.

When we joined the Mindset Mastery program I was still wrapped up in the idea that he had to make more money than me, that it was too hard and too stressful for me to be a mom and a financial provider, etc.

When I hit Modules 7, 8, 9 things started to look different. It was like I was waking up from my own life and now I saw myself, my husband, and my children as if I was a completely different person. That old story from that little girl I had been was displaced and I no longer felt those fears that were such a part of me. I finished Phase 1 with flying colors. I even achieved a significant goal because I knew I could.

When I was in Module 14 my husband hit his own terror barrier and instead of trying to “rescue” him (because I felt I had to as he was my financial life-preserver), I heard him out but asked myself: “What is my part that I should be contributing to my goal? He has his own goals. But mine are mine. So what is my part?”

I got a genius idea within 24 hours. Over the subsequent two weeks I continued working through lesson after lesson, fine-tuning my plan, working through my own terror barriers with his and my coach’s help, and saying my goal statement a zillion times.

One of the lessons in Module 17 talks about being grateful for the paper sacks. My husband has worked in the same company for a while now. I had a lot of resentment, pain, and fear around his employment because I saw them as contributing to our financial hardships. I had tried to forgive them, but it wasn’t really working. Through that Module I was able to change my vibration and become neutral about any further income from them. Instead of needing them to save me too, I unplugged myself from them, knowing that all I needed to achieve my worthy goals would come from whatever source was most efficient. I could identify and receive it from wherever God sent it.

Within 2 days of that ^^ shift, I had an experience with my husband that showed me how far my subconscious has shifted. I looked at him and instead of feeling that instinctive, gut-jerking need for him to do more and make more money, I just saw my sweetheart. There was no co-dependency or disappointment. Just affection. I no longer needed him, or his company, to provide for me.

AND within 2 days of that ^^ shift, he received a significant promotion and raise at his job that made whatever income I made in my biz unnecessary to support our family’s current lifestyle. (He can tell more details about his own “rabbit” if he chooses.)

AND (here’s the clincher guys…)
I.
DIDN’T.
NEED.
IT.

I was completely indifferent to it. I was EXCITED for him of course! Because that’s really cool for him! But I didn’t need the income to accomplish my goal.

I was already chasing my rabbit.

After thinking on this for a few days, I wonder if God has just been waiting to unleash blessings that he knew I wanted, only because I was trying to make someone else do the work for me. He knew I needed to understand this first before I could receive it without sabotaging it.

This is just really cool and I can’t thank Leslie enough for inspired teaching that helped this little girl, now grown woman, heal very old wounds that were ruining her life and her family’s.

I hope this helps someone else stick with it. Keep going through the lessons, one after another. Line upon line, our minds and hearts ARE changing. – Wendy B., Mindset Mastery Program participant

Thank you for sharing, Wendy. I’ve had similar experiences with Rare Faith (read the hardest thing I’ve ever tried to write), and what you described is a true principle in action. I’m sure there are others who have experienced the same phenomenon, and I hope they’ll share in the comments below.

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A little bruised, but grateful

Figuring out how Rare Faith works is not always a smooth process. But for those who are willing to keep trying, and who learn something from each of their toe-stubbing experiences, the process does get smoother. Our life experiences provide the education, but it’s still up to us to get smarter with each lesson.

The following share comes from Mindset Mastery Program participant Daniel Adams, who writes:

“Last November I left my job … I sculpted what I wanted my days to look like, and they have been that way, for almost a year now.

“…The Mindset Mastery Program showed up … and miracle after miracle kept lining up… money from places we had never expected, rich relationships, and transformational healing events with scholarships to them. SO MUCH to be grateful for!!

“So, in module 13 I was so pumped to make something really impactful. I’ve always wanted to run seminars and retreats, and now I had all the tools to do it. I went all in. I posted the goal statement all around my house about running a seminar. And I felt it, and I knew it was happening.

“I meditated and visualized and sensitized on the specifics: where it was, who was there, programming for guests, how they would feel, how I would feel, …content for the workshops, how much to charge… and asked everyday ‘what do I do next’?  I went WAY out of my comfort zone, making requests and inquiries and building relationships all over the community and the internet.

“The spa gave me a discount on space rental… Two powerful marketers showed up and offered free, detailed advice about how to fill the event. Various contacts invited me to come to their yoga studios and promote the event. And then people started showing interest!!

“And then the terror barrier showed up, as we used our savings month after month… and many of my music therapy clients moved on… and all of a sudden we needed this retreat to sell (can you feel the lack creeping in?). And I fought inside myself: can I really live this life? Who am I to make a difference and live my dreams? …one by one guests backed out, or postponed for one reason or another. Monday the resort asked for a final count, and I got to report ‘Zero, this time.’

“…The goal was that I would ‘Create & facilitate a powerful retreat for 12 women at such and such resort on Aug 8-11’ (‘Facilitate’ in Spanish means ‘to make easy’.)

“Ironically, the goal statement did get fulfilled—every word. …The spa general manager set a meeting for Aug 8. During the meeting, the resort said they were willing to partner on the event, and discount both my cost and guest’s costs even further, take on the marketing, and offer it multiple times a year. Pretty miraculous, and it happened ON the day for which I set the goal—Aug 8.

“There I was, at the resort ON Aug 8, ‘creating and facilitating a retreat for women’. …Rad. 😆 and frustrating 😠 because I put a lot of energy into getting that goal statement just right, but apparently December is when I’ll be paid for it. …

“All our learning always counts. Nothing is wasted. And now I get to set some different goals, with complete confidence that this process really works.

“SUPPORT has overflowed through this whole process. And even though this is the first month in 10 years of marriage we’ve needed to carry a balance on the credit card and borrow money from family for rent …there is a peace behind this…and a sense that our manifesting powers are extra heightened right now… In the last 3 weeks our grocery bill has been nil, because people keep taking us to dinner, and we’ve had a few family reunions. Synchronicity really is the new normal.

“Perhaps the largest shift is the one in myself. I’ve been so worried… about how to make money, that I forgot that when you provide more value than you consume, money is a natural flow.

“I’ve looked at the path, (and PB & J) so disdainfully since last November, and to be applying for part time jobs … is a pretty awesome slice of humble pie 🥧 because gratitude is needed in every leg of the journey. But I really can make impact on the path, or off it. And when you catch multiple rabbits, does it really matter how long it takes? Nope.

Randy Mollup’s line about being grateful for sandwiches and watching them get bigger and better brought tears to me, and I realized where I’ve been in conceited mis-alignment.

“And we’re still safe…a little bruised…and pride wounded. [But] I choose even that to be on the plus side of the stickman.

“…Grateful for your support, Leslie. Being connected to the laws through this process has preserved our sanity & hope & strengthened our faith. Hearing the context of what lead to the broom snapping incident (salty windows, your moves to Arizona where the market was wildly different) has been mirroring our own journey. To see you on the other side of that is so comforting. Gratefully, Daniel and Tina Adams”

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