Finding Joy Through Sorrow

By Melanie Valderrama

The Law of Polarity states that everything has an opposite. A bad situation is equally good. Look for the good, and more good will be on its way.

In 1999, I had been married for four years and our finances weren’t going well. My husband had just lost his fifth job and I was upset. I cried to my mom and she suggested we go live with her. My younger siblings were getting ready to all move out of their home and so there was plenty of room for us. I took her up on her offer and we moved 700 miles away. Part of me was upset for having to leave, and the other part of me was relieved to have somewhere to go. After living with my parents for a few years, we were able to move out on our own and my husband currently has a great job and he has been with the same company for five years.

In February 2007, my mother got extremely sick and after lots of testing, was diagnosed with Stage 4 terminal breast cancer. I was in shock and didn’t handle the news very well. I was close to my mother and the thought of her being gone from this earth was difficult to comprehend. My siblings all came to town to say goodbye and spend her final days with her. It was a sad, hard time, also filled with some moments of joy, and in March 2007, she passed away. Knowing this law, I knew there had to be something really, really good in this terrible situation, but couldn’t find it anywhere.

I received my aha moment one morning while I was in my car by myself. I was thinking about my mom and I realized that I never would have moved to live near my mom if something really, really bad hadn’t happened (my husband losing his job). Between 1999-2007, I formed a great relationship with my mom. We took classes together, went out to lunch and learned to eat healthy together.  She taught me how to teach piano and she was able to be with me for the birth of my two children. We talked, laughed, cried and celebrated together. I started learning about these universal laws in the last few years of her life. She and I had some great discussions and, since she was my biggest cheerleader, she encouraged me to keep learning and sharing with her and others. I wouldn’t have been able to spend such great quality time with her if it hadn’t been for a situation that had seemed so tragic to me eight years earlier.

Melanie Valderrama

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