Alicia Howard’s Graduation Spotlight

I’m pleased to present Alicia Howard as a new Mindset Mastery Honors Graduate! 

I am amazed and humbled at Alicia’s ability to live the principles, particularly the Law of Vibration. Even when she came up against terror barriers, and even when others expressed doubt, she kept her brain “tuned in” to the right vibration until she was able to accomplish a goal she hardly dared believe possible. Well done!

Her phase-one inconsequential goal started with a rainstorm:

My daughter and I were headed to the store…in the pouring rain. On a whim I set a “goal” as I was driving to find a parking spot directly in front of the store within 3 stalls closest to the door. I drove right to where I had envisioned it, and there was an open spot, 2nd stall. It was fun to have that happen.

I love that this goal was small and simple. The laws work for the small and simple things too, and this is one of the best ways to start practicing living the laws.

Her phase-two meaningful goal, however, was a much bigger challenge.

She tells us her story here:

My long term goal was to attend a week-long workshop in October, so my bite-size goal was to have the money to register for the workshop and for the travel by June 26th…. To attend the workshop, seemed impossible. I could see no way I could get enough money at all, let alone by June 26.

I had two “stipulations” for the money. 1) I didn’t want it to come from our family finances, and 2) I didn’t want to borrow it. Although I didn’t build these things into my goal statement, I kept that energy every time I said my statement.

Once I set the goal, I tried to be open to any ideas to get the money I needed. One idea was only going to bring in $20, but I wanted to demonstrate that I was willing to do my part, so I did it. Another idea brought in a couple hundred dollars and also allowed me to sell items from my previous business to make some energetic space for whatever was coming next.

Last Monday, registration opened for the workshop and would close when 50 participants registered, so I felt some urgency, but didn’t panic. The organizers also agreed to pay airfare for anyone who registered by Friday. At this point I had about half of the total I needed.

I got online to look at the hotel where the workshop will be, I scouted out different airfare options. That was the first time I got super emotional about my goal. The excitement I felt made me want to jump up and down and shout it to the world that I was going! It was so real to me.

Up until this point (Tuesday night), I hadn’t told my husband about my goal because I felt that it would be really difficult to keep my head in the right space, with the reaction I was pretty sure he would have. But by Wednesday, I knew I needed to tell him about my goal, if for nothing else, just scheduling purposes because I would be gone for a week.

I told him, and his reaction was just as I anticipated. This was my terror barrier. I spent most of the day Wednesday journaling and using all the tools from the course to keep my doubts and fears at bay. I literally went back through all the notes I’ve taken over the last 12 weeks to keep my head in the right space. I kept reading my goal statement and working to keep my vibration up so I could access the ideas needed to create the rest of the money. It was an all day effort!

Thursday morning, I decided to go ahead and register. Although I didn’t have all the money, they had the option of paying in 4 installments. So as an act of faith that the rest of the money would come, I paid the first installment, and registered!

I began to think about temporary jobs I could get to earn the rest of the money. Although I didn’t love the idea to getting a job, I was committed to doing whatever I felt inspired to do.

Friday morning, I just felt uneasy at the thought of getting a job right now. But again, I wanted to be open to all the ideas. Later that day, I met some of my sisters and Mom for lunch. While we visited, I thought about sharing my goal with them, but hesitated because I was afraid that their reaction would be similar to my husband’s. After a while I felt it was safe to share…so I asked them for ideas of how I could earn money because I was going to this workshop in October, and needed to pay for it. They were very supportive and encouraging.

We parted ways and as I got in my car, my mom called and asked me to follow her home, that she wanted to gift me the $2000 I still needed!

I was so humbled and grateful. It was sort of surreal, I expected that I would be screaming and jumping up and down, but instead I was in awe and amazement that it had worked! (The next day I did the module that talks about how we feel the emotion we expect to feel ahead of time, so when our goal comes to pass, it’s not very different than what we have been feeling all along—so true!).

Alicia’s story illustrates several laws of thought:

She used the Law of Cause and Effect when she said, “One idea was only going to bring in $20, but I wanted to demonstrate that I was willing to do my part, so I did it. Because she was willing to take this small step toward her goal, it took steps toward her.

She lived the Law of Vibration when her spouse struggled to support her, but she spent the day journaling and reviewing tools from the course. Wow. The hardest work we often do is keeping our thoughts right. She was willing to do this work and it paid off.

Finally, I know she practiced the Law of Relativity, which states that nothing we experience is fundamentally good or bad, from this message she sent me:

I’ve learned how to be curious about my thoughts without getting emotional…. It was therapeutic to take a look at my fears and answer them. As I took the fears to a worst-case scenario and answered them, they lost all their power, and I was extremely hopeful that I would figure it out, no matter the outcome. I knew that my fears were just emotions that were a lower vibration, so I became proactive in finding new thoughts that would put me in a higher vibration to find the solutions I needed.

Following is how Alicia ended her story, but I have a feeling it’s a beginning as well:

So there is my story…I love it! One phrase in my goal statement was ‘the story of how the money came to me will always be a testament to the power of laws and faith, and God’s desire and willingness to bless me with the desires of my heart’…

Thanks so much for this course!  I’m grateful the Guided class came online just at the perfect time when I was ready to move forward! I love looking back and noticing how small little events, that didn’t seem to relate to each other, in the end, worked together to facilitate my experience! I’m so grateful for the things I learned.  Hearing from the other class member in the guided group each week was key to my own success.  I’m not sure what is next for me, but I’m confident that whatever it is, I will be successful with the tools you have given me! Much thanks! Alicia

Again, congratulations, Alicia! You’ve done an amazing job!

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What’s YOUR story going to be?

I want to see YOU graduate, too!

Learn more about the Mindset Mastery program HERE.

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The Mindset Mastery Program is not to be confused with the Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse.

The Fundamentals Ecourse provides an introductory exploration into the principles that govern success for effective goal setting. It also fills the gaps to give you a basic but complete understanding of the principles, so that you have a solid foundation on which to develop true mastery. 

By contrast, the Mastery Program is focused on the *implementation* of those principles and the *achievement* of your goals. It is full of interesting assignments that take you step-by-step through two experimental goals, challenging your thought processes, helping you experience success, and setting up a pattern in your thinking that you will be able to utilize over and over for effectiveness with all of your future goals. There is a self-paced version, but we also have a GUIDED version if you want to go through the lessons on a weekly basis with an expert guide. View all your options here.

I hope you’ll join me in one of these programs, so I can help you take your understanding and success to the next level in ALL areas of your life!

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God and the Principles of Success

Today’s Q/A is about God and the principles. Rebecca asks: “Why do you tell people it’s ok if they don’t believe in God?”

Rebecca was concerned that, in my newsletter titled “Oh, the Controversy,” I minimized God’s role in our success. That newsletter pointed to several articles, namely:

Let’s read her complete question, in her words:

Dear Leslie,

I’ve read you books and listen to you for several years now. It has been enjoyable and [I appreciate] how you teach so much in many ways. I started working in the temple about 7 months ago and since that time have become very concerned with many self-help teachings.

Many seem to teach philosophies of men mingled with scripture. In searching and contemplating, many ideas and teachings that I have believed do fall in that category.

I believe that the 7 laws are true laws. Where I am concerned is that in teaching those principles, in many ways, there is a denial of God.

I know that you believe in God and in his church. I know the laws work whether you believe in God or whether you do not. But in telling other that they can come form God or from Nature or out of the universe or what ever, I believe we are telling people it is not important to believe in God.

He is the most important truth! He is where all truth comes from.

In this world where so many that are denying there is a God, I for one feel called upon more and more each day to stand up and testify that He lives and that his Son is Jesus Christ.

You know form reading the Book of Mormon that if this country denies the God of the country Jesus Christ we as a people will be removed form this land. Our country is already fallen so far. If we do not turn back to God soon, Great destruction awaits us.

I have stopped listening to many of the self-help industry because of this, but have continued to listen to you. I felt you were testifying more of God than most. That is why this article about the Controversy is troubling to me. To me it said: it ok if you do not believe in God. It is ok to give God credit to something or someone else. But it is not ok. There is a God and we need to stand up for Him.

When someone obtains somethings with the law of attraction it is still God’s law. Even if they do not believe in God they are still using God’s law. I have seen so many turning from God and I believe it is because we are denying that the laws come from him.

The hard part is I know you believe all this. What I do not understand is why you are telling people it ok to believe there is no God. As President Russell M. Nelson has said the most important work we can do is to bring people unto Christ. What good is successful in life if there is no eternal life?

Rebecca

A. Here is my reply:

Hi Rebecca,

Thank you for taking the time to write. I agree with you about the importance of believing in God, can you point me to the phrase or paragraph that troubled you? I’d like to review it and make sure it still speaks truth (some of my articles were written over ten years ago and are sent out by autoresponders). The newsletter you replied to has several articles, and I’m having trouble finding the specific piece you’re talking about.

One thing to note, though, is that unfortunately, the principles DO work, whether or not a person believes in God. That is the truth, unfortunately. Like gravity, it applies AND has its effect on ALL people—believers and unbelievers alike. Saints and sinners alike. We may not like that fact, but it is the truth. This is why some people leave God when they discover them—but I would question whether they were truly converted in the first place, if their ability to obtain material possessions with or without Him is what caused them to believe or disbelieve.

God’s laws are in place, and they do play out for the sinner and the saint, no matter if we believe in Him. That doesn’t mean that we should abandon God, it just means we must be careful how we use them, because there WILL be eternal consequences for how we use the power (just as there are eternal consequences for how we use the power of procreation).

The principles can be used for worthy goals but they can also be used for stupid goals (I’ve had my fair share of those). They can be employed to build the kingdom of God, and they can also be employed to fight the kingdom of God.

This is why Jacob 2:19 says: “And after ye have obtained a hope in Christ ye shall obtain riches, if ye seek them; and ye will seek them for the intent to do good—to clothe the naked, and to feed the hungry, and to liberate the captive, and administer relief to the sick and the afflicted.”

My work is to educate on the principles, in the context of “having first obtained a hope in Christ”—but I don’t always have control over who reads my work. It would be convenient if my readers were only those who were solidly grounded in the gospel of Jesus Christ, but I have readers from all over the world who, for some, have never even been taught about Christ. If they find my work and follow me long enough, they’ll learn about my beliefs. I have them posted prominently on my blog in the upper menu.

Keep in mind that I have written over 500 articles, and:

  • Some are written for members who are afraid to learn about the principles.
  • Some are written for Christians who are afraid to learn from a Mormon (a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints).
  • Some are written for atheists who struggle to believe in unseen help. (I’m not going to shun them if they haven’t gained a testimony of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. If I can minister to them, and show them how to provide for their families, I believe the Lord would want me to.)
  • Some are written for non-Christians who don’t understand the role of Jesus Christ in overcoming life’s challenges.

Just as missionaries need to be conscious and respectful of the culture of those they teach, if they want to build the relationships that bring people to Christ, I try to do the same with my readers. Sometimes the Spirit prompts me to hold back, and sometimes it instructs me to speak boldly. Again, with over 500 articles, you’ll see the gamut.

I don’t think I’ve ever said it’s okay not to believe in God, but if I have, I would like to fix that. What I think I have said is that the principles work whether or not you believe in God, and that is still true.

Anyway, if you decide that you should stop listening to or reading my work, I hope you’ll read this one last thing. It’s the most important thing I think I have ever written on the topic, and I hope it’s what I will be remembered for:

https://rarefaith.org/the-hardest-thing-ive-ever-tried-to-write/

It’s long, but it really shares my heart regarding the personal development world, and where it sits with my testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Warmly,

Leslie

“But I say unto you, Love [all]…, bless [all]…, do good to [all]…, and pray for [all]…; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.” (Matthew 5:44-44)

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Should we sell our home?

Today’s Question is about Real Estate:

“Should we sell our home?”

One of my readers sent me the following:

“We have enough equity in our house that if we sold it, we’d be almost completely out of debt. We’ve got 2 kids in college and 2 at home still, which makes downsizing a little tricky at this point. We’d probably have to rent an apartment for a year to save up for another down payment on a different home. Or buy a condo, and those can be difficult to sell.

We want the kids to have a place to stay when they come home for the summer, and if we were in a 3 bedroom apt or condo that wouldn’t be ideal. And yet, I REALLY want financial freedom. I REALLY want this burden GONE FOREVER.

My business has been struggling for years, and is actually the reason why we’re in this situation—I invested in marketing and trainings that didn’t convert, and got scammed by a business partner. Lots of adventures!

But I hear you loud and clear about being reactionary at this point. Any money the business brings in goes right to debt. I haven’t paid myself in close to a year. That sucks all the fun out of business! 🙂

Anyway, the question is: do we sell the home in the spring and rent for a while? What would you do?

..Thank you so much, Leslie! You’re one of the last people out there I actually trust. – A. C.

Here’s my reply:

That’s a tough question. I’d probably be tempted too, but we spent 6 years renting after the recession and I never realized how much of my mental energy was spent wondering, “Where are we going to be next year? Will the rent go up? Are we going to pay the higher rent or are we going to move again? What about the kids’ schoolwhat if we have to move too far? How are we going to save for a down payment fast enough to keep up with rising home prices?”

It was on my mind constantly. We ultimately bought another home and the difference it made in my ability to THINK, create, and serve again was HUGE.

That being said, who knows if the home prices are going to tank again in the near future, and getting the equity now might be super beneficial? It would be amazing to pay off the debts faster, and buy a home when they’re cheaper. Indeed, it could go really well in that regard, but it’s a BIG gamble. If you stay where you are and can get in front of things any other way, don’t take it for granted that you already have a home of your own. It’s a huge-er deal than you know.

I strongly recommend that you do a search in Dave Ramsey’s archives for “should I sell my home to pay off debt” and see what advice he offers in different scenarios. Additionally, here’s one article on the topic. Find the principle that applies to your situation from which to make your decision, then you can be at peace no matter which way the market goes.

She responded:

Thank you! I adore you! I appreciate your honesty so much. And when I get quiet in my mind, I realize that some of this feeling is impatience, which is NOT a principle of abundance! I’ll do a search on Dave Ramsey—that’s a great idea. Thank you again! 

To learn more about developing the right mindset for achieving your goals, visit www.ProspertheFamily.com

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Avoiding Debt-Payoff Self-Sabotage

Today’s Question comes from Allyson. She wanted to know:

“How do I visualize paying off debt, without creating a subconscious desire for MORE debt to pay off?”

In her words:

I’ve been listening to your Science of Getting Rich Program over the last couple of weeks and have a question for you.

This next year my husband and I want to create financial freedom, which to us looks like a zero balance on all the credit cards and everything paid off. What we’re bumping up against is we keep visualizing the victory with paying off credit cards, and we don’t want to train our mind into seeking more debt for that thrill of paying it off.

But financial freedom feels so esoteric to us that I am having a hard time pinning down an emotion associated with financial freedom. I’ve thought about what I want life to look like when there are no more debts, and it’s just that everything is normal, I feel secure and I sleep well every night, we are able to invest, and we’re able to pay a lot in tithing and fast offerings and so forth… but it doesn’t carry the emotional thrill that having zero debt has.

Can you help me reframe this, please? I KNOW we can create financial freedom this year. I want to make sure we’re not future sabotaging by the emotion we’re connecting to the visualization, or that we’re visualizing the wrong thing.

Thank you so much! – A.C.

Here’s my Answer:

One of the best pieces of advice I got on this was to spend energy picturing and planning the details of life “after”, and get excited about the feelings associated with normal life. But sometimes nothing else sounds quite as exciting, so I do get that it’s important to be emotionally invested in getting out of debt. I don’t know if this is necessarily the best way, but I’ll tell you how we finally did it. And I’m sorry, it’s kind of rambling without editing, so I hope it’s helpful:

We listened a lot to Dave Ramsey (which was painful at first, but eventually allowed us to get REALLY excited about being out of debt, WITH the new mindset that also kept us from sabotaging ourselves when the goal was achieved. It’s good medicine. Best of both worlds, in my opinion.

We first made a commitment to stop using credit to tide us over if we came up short in any given month. This commitment was before we tried to pay anything off, I think. It meant that we had to use “rare faith” a LOT. Every month, for a while in fact, until we started noticing that miracle after miracle, the principles were proving to be dependable, as long as we kept to the commitment and expected another miracle. …I had never realized what a shift in mentality that required for us, because we were coming from an “investing” mindset – using other people’s money to invest for high returns. (Which, we did really well at for a while, until we got caught in the recession and people couldn’t pay money that they owed us, and the dominoes began to really fall.)

We also had to get serious about budgeting. How on earth would we do that when our income was unpredictable?? We decided we’d just do our best. So it meant looking back over the year and coming up with average monthly dollar amounts for all the predictable expenses. We were barely making it with our business income, and when we came up short, I’d just run a promotion or something, so how do I budget when I’m so used to being reactionary to our needs? We got those monthly figures, and then decided on a monthly amount that the business had to make – so it meant setting up an automatic transfer from business to personal every two weeks.

This freaked me out at first because I thought, “Well, what if the business doesn’t make that much?” and “What if I don’t feel motivated to make more than the bi-monthly draw?” And the first month, it was patchy. I had to scramble to make enough before the transfer hit, which was new because I wasn’t scrambling to pay a bill, I was scrambling to pay myself.

Something about that helped with another mindset shift I needed – because I was scrambling to pay MYSELF instead of scrambling to pay a bill (even though the result was the same). I scrambled again to make enough in time for the second draw. And I didn’t really earn more than the bare minimum.

But after that first month, something felt different. I started working for the joy of it again, knowing that the draw would automatically cover my bills, and I found myself wondering how much more I could make, just for fun. Our financial planner told me to “Let the business account build up”, so no matter how much I generated, I was still only allowed to spend the fixed monthly budgeted amount. That was a new concept to me. (Because previously I was always just reacting to our needs.) So that’s what the budget did for me – it stopped me from thinking so much about bills, and helped me get back to just creating.

The next month I did really well, but still only received the fixed draw into my personal account. The business account started to grow and grow. THAT did a lot for my psyche. Out of the budgeted amount, certain amounts went to paying off bills, and as things started going better, I got a real charge out of paying off debts early. We started to get a bigger charge out of saving, too. This was a new experience for us. I made more rules for myself – like if I generated a certain amount of revenue by the end of the year, I’d give myself a bonus. Otherwise the money stayed in the business account, which was nice because then I had reserves I could use for investing more in my business – product, hired help, etc. It also made it so that the tax bill at the end of the year wasn’t a giant blow to our pocketbook – there was money saved and enough to cover the tax bill and to spare.

Anyway, we felt like step one had to be learning how to live with the new system of paying myself, and within these budgeting restrictions (something that ran counter to the “abundance mindset” – but again, it felt like necessary short-term medicine for our long-term wealth plan).

So the short answer is this. If you want to be really excited about paying off debt, you CAN. But keep it paired with a constant reminder of the principles that build a wise and solid foundation. Follow Dave’s Baby Steps. I used to think he was only about budgeting for people on limited incomes. But he’s more about wealth building – it’s just that too many people skip the steps that build a solid foundation, so that’s why he hammers that part so much. Too often I see people get caught up in the excitement about paying off debt without the education (and pants-kicking) that keeps them wise afterwards, and they get sucked back into the same problems over and over again. Pulling rabbits out of the hat to keep fixing debt problems does work, but it becomes exhausting.

So if your vision is a normal, peaceful, joyful abundant life, then submit yourself to Dave’s podcast (if you aren’t already listening to him). Like I said, it can be painful in the short term, but it’s really made all the difference for us in the longer term. It keeps us in check, and has really added to my ability to live the normal peaceful life I always wanted.

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