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Choosing a Date for your Goal

So you want something to change. Maybe you need more money, want to reach a business goal, or just long for better health or relationships. Can you see yourself as though you’ve already achieved it? Can you feel how you expect to feel when it’s accomplished?

These are some of the first steps to powerful and effective goal-achievement, but one of the next steps is to set a date. While this step isn’t absolutely necessary, there are a few reasons why you might want to assign a date to your goal.

Reasons to Set a Date

  1. It makes you think more seriously about actually making it happen, putting it in “real time” instead of leaving it forever in “fantasy-mode”.
  2. It keeps you focused, and helps you avoid distractions that might derail you. After all, you have a deadline now, so you’d better get working on it.
  3. It increases your odds for accomplishing it, because a goal without a plan is just a wish.
  4. When your goal (and date) is set in a certain way, you receive unseen help with getting it done.

How to Choose a Date

Choosing a date for your goal can sometimes be one of the hardest parts of goal achievement. It forces you to think. It requires you to make a quality decision, to get serious about your objective, and to think it through with enough detail to determine an estimation of how long you believe it will take to complete it.

Or at least it should. Don’t bother setting a date if it’s not accompanied by a quality decision and firm intention to stay in believe-mode from now until (at least) that date. 100%. This intention piece matters more to the goal’s success than the date you choose.

All of these factors help you effectively achieve goals and your goals can be achieved without setting a date, but if setting a date makes you do all of these things, then maybe you can see why the practice comes so highly recommended.

What if you Get it Wrong?

  • What if you pick a date that’s too soon?
  • What if you set it too far out, but it doesn’t really need to take that long?
  • What if it doesn’t happen on the date you choose?

A goal date is like a due date. When a woman is pregnant, she (or her healthcare provider) checks the data and determines when the baby is due. It’s simply a best guess based on known factors. By the same token, when setting a goal, you simply pick a date based on the known factors: far enough away to be legitimately possible, but close enough that it creates an urgency to prepare for it.

Don’t get too worked up about choosing the right date, just give it your best guess and then firmly anchor your intentions to accomplishing the goal by that date. Remember, the real benefit is that the date keeps you on task. It keeps you from getting too distracted by competing interests.

How Long Should it Take?

The good news is that your goal, like a seed, has a finite gestation period. When planted properly and nourished adequately, goals and seeds both mature and bear fruit. There are natural laws that govern the growth and maturation of all things, including goals. Although science has completely catalogued the gestation periods for all seeds in nature, we don’t know the gestation period that corresponds with all the different goals, or idea-seeds. So when you set a date, you’re really just making a prediction of how long you expect it to take for the goal seed to mature.

On a side note, I believe in miracles. I believe that things can happen much more quickly by that rare kind of faith that I talk about so much, seemingly defying the more commonly understood laws of nature. These things happen within the structure of other natural laws that perhaps we just don’t yet understand. But I am convinced that nothing happens outside of governing laws. Since we don’t know or understand all of the laws by which God governs the Universe, we can do our best to understand and live by as much of the knowledge as we’ve received. And so the objective here is to simply do our part to make sure that we, at least, are not the limiting factor in what God can accomplish in our life.  Yes, He can do all things, but how much we get to participate in those wonderful things depends squarely on our application of the laws and principles we’ve been privileged enough to understand.

Getting it Wrong Doesn’t Change the Outcome

Okay, so you set a goal and put a date to it. Are you going to be wrong sometimes? Of course you will. How often do mothers deliver their babies exactly on their due date? Does it even matter if the doctor’s prediction was not accurate? Not at all. The baby still comes! Having a date in mind simply keeps the mother on task in her preparations. The outcome doesn’t change just because the anticipated bundle doesn’t arrive on the due date. She doesn’t lament, “I guess I’m not going to have a baby.”  NO, if she goes overdue, she becomes even more convinced that it will happen at any moment.

If you set a date for the completion of your goal, and it doesn’t happen by then, don’t think of the goal-setting process as a failure. It was working just fine. In fact, even in that moment it’s still working—the goal just happens to be overdue, according to your calculations. So you picked the wrong due date. So what? It doesn’t mean you aren’t still expecting!

A Critical Moment

It’s actually your choice of thoughts in that moment—when it didn’t happen—which are the thoughts that matter most. It’s in that moment, depending on your thoughts, that your goal will continue to develop like a Polaroid, or it will fade back into the nothingness where it began. As you continue to believe and work toward the goal, all that you need continues to gather toward you and develop until one day it’s finally achieved. To learn more about how this works, read Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters (FREE).

So hold on to the dream especially when it doesn’t show up on time. Doing so keeps it coming, and if it was important enough to shoot for in the first place, it’s important enough to keep believing in it. In hindsight, after you’ve finally achieved it, you’ll realize that it truly was better late than never.

Think of it this way: if it doesn’t arrive “on time”, then it probably just wasn’t done cooking. And that’s okay. You don’t want your goal to arrive half-baked anyway. Let it finish completely. When it misses your “due date”, get more excited, (not less), knowing that it’s even closer to being done than ever, and it’s only a matter of time. Keep preparing for its arrival. Be grateful, because when it does arrive, it will be even better than if it had arrived early.

So set some goals. Follow your dreams, and be patient with the process. Change takes time, but the time it takes is worth the wait. As my Dad taught me long ago, God doesn’t always deliver when you want Him to, but He’s never late.

To learn more about the fundamentals of goal achievement, click here. 

If you’re well versed in the fundamentals and ready to take the Mastery Challenge, join me now in the Mindset Mastery Program. See you on the inside!

Orig

inally published August 14, 2006

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Angi Bair’s Graduation Spotlight

I’m pleased to announce Angi Bair as a new Mindset Mastery Honors Graduate!

Angi writes:

I am a Realtor and I love that job, but I am just starting a business of Dr. Bradley Nelson’s Emotion Code and Body Code emotional energy healing.  My facebook page is called Soul Me Up, but I don’t have a website yet.  I also have the goal of becoming a Bootcamp Facilitator to start helping more people change their mindsets and achieve their goals. I have 3 daughters, 2 son’s in law, and one adorable grand baby.  They are my whole world!

Total Points Earned: 303

Q. What was your Phase 1 Inconsequential Goal?

For my midterm experience I chose to visualize a picture I wanted to give my nephew as a wedding gift. Weeks before I had looked online and there were no pictures of the specific thing I wanted to give him. I was hoping to find one at the store down by the wedding. So when it came to deciding on my midterm experience I thought this would be the perfect thing. I had previously purchased a similar picture for my nieces wedding last summer. So I visualized the store and the picture hanging on the wall and the clerk lifting it down to me. I wrote in my goal I wanted a large beautiful picture of the specific place he was getting married and it was under $30. I thought about this for several days before the wedding. I couldn’t remember what my nieces picture looked like specifically, but I knew I wanted something similar to that. But I didn’t really picture in my mind the actual picture, rather that it was in the store hanging on the wall.

So when I arrived at the store I walked to the exact spot on the wall I had visualized the picture hanging. And there it was…. a somewhat large… somewhat beautiful…. picture of the specific building I was looking for and it was only $20. It was right where I had visualized it, and met every criteria. Except it wasn’t the size I wanted, not the color I wanted, and I didn’t like the picture. I wandered through the whole store and looked at every picture and nothing was what I wanted. So I ended up getting another wedding gift.

I knew I had successfully created the midterm experience, but I was not satisfied because I didn’t like the picture. I was a little disappointed. On the way to the wedding as we approached the building there were cars lined up all along the street. I realized the parking lot was full. I really didn’t want to park clear out on the street and walk a long way in the the cold winter conditions. I quickly had the thought to visualize a perfect front row parking spot. I saw the image in my mind of me pulling in the the perfect spot in the front. I was so grateful I didn’t have to walk a long way in the cold wearing a dress. Just as I pulled in the parking lot a car pulled out of the very best spot in the very front of the building. Success!! I felt really good about the parking space.

Later as I was thinking more on the picture situation I wasn’t satisfied. I then realized one of my biggest problems has been “vague thinking produces vague results”. I needed to be more clear. I knew exactly what size I wanted the picture to be in my mind, but I just said large. I knew what color scheme I wanted the picture to be, but I just said beautiful. I knew basically what I wanted the picture to look like, but I visualized a picture on the wall and the store clerk lifting it down, not the actual picture I wanted.

So really I was successful with what I created, I just didn’t create what I really wanted. This was the biggest lesson to me so far. In my life I have been successful and I have created a lot of things. But I haven’t created the life I want because I have been vague in my thinking. Now is the time for me to be more specific and really create what my heart desires!

Phase 1 Feedback

In just a few short weeks I can already feel a huge difference in my attitude and my life. I am manifesting small things to myself all the time. I think about things and they appear. I am really learning to find the lessons and analyze things when they don’t appear to be what I want. I am seeing when I am holding myself back. I am recognizing wrong thinking. I am able to consciously make choices to create the life I want.

I feel more inspiration and love from God. I am so grateful for the changes in myself and even in my family just from changing my thinking. I am excited for what else I get to learn.

Q. What would you tell someone who is facing their fear right now?

To face it. What is the worst that can happen? What can I learn from this? What is standing in my way? Do some self reflection and pray for answers. I think considering all the scenarios and the worst thing that can happen is very empowering. Then I would say just take one baby step. Then just one more. I have found by doing this the monster turns into a mouse.

Q. What was your Phase 2 Short Term Goal, and on a scale of 1-10, how did you rank it in difficulty?

It was a 10.

I have just completed all the modules and my Phase 2 goal. Wow! I have learned so much I don’t even know where to begin! It has taken me a week since completing the module to gather my thoughts together and share in the group.

My goal was to take my daughter and her best friend to Greece this summer with my sister and her family. My first struggle with this goal was feeling like I shouldn’t “want material things.” I believed my mind should be set on more eternal principles or things that “meant something.” I felt like it wasn’t fair for me to want “a fancy trip” when some people just want to put food on the table or a roof over their heads. The more I worked through these issues the more I learned about myself.

I learned that when I listen and follow inspiration then it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing or what anyone else thinks. I started to ask why did I want this goal? What was the purpose? Why was it important to me?….. I want to see the world, and I believe God wants us to experience the beauty in this world he has created. I love mythology and want to see and learn all about the beginnings of Greek mythology. I love spending time with my daughter and traveling….But the biggest reason and the most important WHY for the trip was my daughter’s best friend.

This young 15 year old girl lost her mother unexpectedly within 3 months of getting diagnosed with brain cancer. Her mother passed away in January. She is an only child and her parents are divorced. Her mother was her world. She and her mother traveled all over the world. Her mother was an International flight attendant. Traveling is what they loved to do together. When her mother passed away she told my daughter that now my daughter would have to go on trips with her, because it wasn’t always fun just going with her dad (dad’s just don’t love girl shopping).

So I decided I wanted to take her somewhere traveling with us. I wanted to go to Greece because my sister and her family where going and it would be the perfect trip for me to take my daughter and her friend. It would be safer than going alone, and I could hang out with my sister while the teenagers did their thing. We wanted to wait to invite the friend until things had settled with her mom’s passing. I didn’t want her to feel like we were trying to replace her mom.

Within a few days my daughter and her friend were talking and the friend randomly said “I want to go to Greece this summer, I’ve never been there and I have always wanted to go”…..That is when I knew there was so much more to this goal than just a fancy trip. This goal mattered and would likely be very important. It was a witness to me that I made the right decision. I could feel her mother thanking me for taking care of her daughter. I know this trip will give us a lifelong bond. She will know I love her and that my daughter and I will always be there for her.

It was at Genius Bootcamp when I really began to love and accept the idea that it was “okay” to have and want what appear to be “material things”. I visualized the girls giggling on the long plane ride, I saw them running on the beach, and shopping, and eating ice cream cones. I could feel the warm sun beating down on us and seeing the beautiful blue water. And I visualized their smiles and their excitement seeing all the neat sites. I visualized them taking selfies and posting on instagram. It filled my heart with utter joy and I KNEW this is part of God’s plan for me. This is a worthy goal.

So now that I had accepted the goal and knew I needed to go to Greece, I had to figure out how to pay for the trip.

So my phase 2 bite size goal was to register and make the first installment payment on the trip since that could be completed within a few weeks. I worked and re-worked the wording of the goal. I started with asking for the exact money I needed to accomplish the goal, but tips from Leslie and others led me to narrow the goal down even better. The ultimate goal is to go to Greece, not XX amount of dollars. The bite sized piece of the goal is to sign up for the trip and make the first installment.

So I wrote my goal that the first installment was completed and my other financial obligations for the month were met. No dollar amount or anything that complicated it. I wanted to make sure the payment didn’t come from sacrificing out of my regular monthly needs. Switching the goal from asking for a specific amount of money helped me really focus on what the end goal was, not on money. I read the goal over and over several times each day.

Some days I wouldn’t be excited when I read through it, but as I kept reading over and over usually by the 4th or 5th time I could actually feel the joy and excitement of accomplishing this part of the goal. I always made sure to keep reading it until I did feel joy and excitement.

My first obstacle came when I finally signed up for the trip. When I first had the idea to go there were 14 spots. By the time I signed up there were only 2 spots left and there were 3 of us. I actually laughed out loud….but I knew we were going and was excited for this first test. I asked for permission for 3 of us to go because we would all be sharing a room anyway. I continued to believe. It took a few weeks and they never got back to me and I had a few passing moments of doubt, but I continued on, knowing it had to work out.

I got an unexpected refund check on some insurance I over paid. That would help with the installment. Finally we got approved for 3 people in the same room and it was time for the first installment. I didn’t have the exact amount of money that was needed for the installment payment but I didn’t worry because my goal was that the installment would be completed and I knew I was going to Greece.

I called and told them what I could pay. I had a slight fear of how they would react, but kept firm in my belief. I was shocked, but they said, “Don’t worry, we will take this partial payment and then apply the balance to the future installments.” I did it! I had made the first installment payment. It wasn’t perfect and it wasn’t exactly how I thought it would be, but it happened.

I still had a few weeks left in the modules, so I continued studying and set the next bite sized piece of the goal to have the second installment completed. I knew I had accomplished my first goal, but the money was short and so panic and fear crept in. The terror barrier came up….I doubted if this was going to work. I had to really work hard to hold on to my faith and belief in the goal even though I was still worried about how to pay for the whole trip. But I laser focused on just the next installment. I was expecting my tax return to pay a big portion of the trip, but surprise….my accountant did some cleaning up of my books etc and applied some extra income from one of my businesses to me personally this year, and that expected tax return became very small. I was devastated. Several other things in my life all fell apart at this same time and I really struggled….But I remembered how important this goal was. I visualized the girls with me on the trip. We were laughing and having a great time together. Then I was reminded that we just need to set the goal and work in faith. We can’t plan and expect where the necessary parts are going to come from. I was grateful for the small tax refund I got and was again reminded how important this trip was. I knew I could trust God to get me there. HE wants me to go and HE will help me get there. Not the IRS or myself or anyone else.

So the next installment came and I was again short. But I payed what I had and now was just having faith that the trip would be paid for and I was going.

Two days later I received all the money I needed for the entire trip completely unexpectedly from a source I never even thought of. I knew instantly that was God’s work and that I AM on the right path.

I gave sincere heartfelt thanks to God in that moment.

Q. What would you rank this goal now, if you were to tackle it again?

3-4. Now I worked through some hard stuff, but I still have a few “money” issues that scare me and limit me. I would have an easier time than the first time through, but I still have old programming and things I need to work on.  I am going to keep refining myself.

Phase 2 Feedback

Mindset Mastery has changed my life.

I have studied the Law of Attraction quite a bit and no matter how hard I tried it never seemed to work. I felt something was missing. I found it in this course! There are many laws that govern our success and our lives. This course was so helpful in teaching about all the ups and downs in life and in our goals. Finally someone who talks about how things aren’t always perfect! I needed to learn how to get through the downs and how to see more ups. I loved the idea of life’s ups and downs more like a staircase always leading you up.

I love that the course has actual assignments that make you think, practice, and study what you are learning. It makes you take ACTION. All the studying, reading, dreaming, and positive attitude are just a small portion of success. One of the biggest things I learned in this course is just to keep moving. One step at a time. I love the analogy that you can’t go anywhere with both feet firmly planted on the ground. We get where we are going one step at a time.

I loved breaking my goal down into bite sized pieces and action I could take. I learned how to navigate hard situations, and how to keep focused on my goal and my beliefs. I have learned to put faith in God, trust his plan for me, trust the laws, and just keep moving.

If someone wants to work with you, learn from you, or get help with Emotion Code, where can they learn more?

I’m just getting underway, but I can be found here: www.facebook.com/liftupmysoul/

Congratulations, Angi!

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Now reader, what’s YOUR story going to be? I want to see YOU graduate, too!

Learn more about the Mindset Mastery program HERE.

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The Mindset Mastery Program is not to be confused with the Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse.

The Fundamentals Ecourse is a powerful exploration of the principles that govern success, and takes an introductory approach for effective goal setting. It also fills the gaps to give you a basic but complete understanding of the principles, so that you have a solid foundation on which to develop true mastery. 

By contrast, the Mastery Program is focused on the *implementation* of the principles and the *achievement* of your goals. It is full of interesting assignments that take you step-by-step through two experimental goals, challenging your thought processes, helping you experience success, and setting up a pattern in your thinking that you will be able to utilize over and over for effectiveness with all of your future goals. I hope you’ll join me in one of these programs, to help you take your understanding and success to the next level in ALL the different areas of your life. Learn more HERE.

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Do the Challenges Ever Stop?

Positive Thinking Tip: When you are down to nothing, God is up to something.

It’s thrilling to discover the principles, and it’s especially exciting when you see them work for the first time.

From there, you feel empowered and encouraged to think bigger and test the principles on more significant tasks. But when you face a setback, you might be left wondering, “What just happened here? I thought that if I just live the principles perfectly, the rest of my life would be easy!”

I have an answer for this, and I hope it doesn’t burst anyone’s bubble too much, but we were placed on this earth to grow.

All life is compelled to grow and expand. That is one of the definitions that helps us determine whether something is alive: does it grow?

In order for us to grow, we must have challenges that stretch us beyond our present limits. We must work our mental muscles and exercise our mind, body, and spirit in order to have the joy and experience the success that only comes through growth and expansion. There are few joys that exceed the feeling of facing a difficult challenge, and overcoming it.

The truth is, that if we ever found ourselves without challenges, we would become unhappy and restless.

Remember when you were a child, and your mother tried to teach you how to tie your shoe?

Did it work the first time you tried it? Probably not. And it was probably very frustrating, and likely evoked some tears.

In that moment, there had never been so great a challenge in your life. You wanted to throw in the towel, give up, and if it didn’t make you cry, it probably made you growl in frustration. However, in time, it became old hat for you and you could do it without even thinking.

Sixth Grade

Then when you were in sixth grade, your teacher probably assigned you a book report that would take several weeks and had to fill up about 4 pages. You had never done an assignment that big before, and it was overwhelming. In time, and after being required to do a number of similar assignments, it was no big deal. What took several weeks could be completed in a day, because you had experience.

Fast forward to college.

Remember those projects that ultimately determined your final grade? Remember the countless hours on the computer? Remember closing off your social life in order to meet that deadline? It was overwhelming, and the stress was unbelievable. You had never been required to work so hard on something so important! If you were like me, you shed many tears and begged your professor more than once for mercy.

Then for some of you, you started in the work force and had job pressures and bills to pay. Sometimes it was too much to bear. You thought you had it pretty tough until…

You got married and added a spouse to the picture.

Now there were work pressures, bills to pay, and a spouse to please. Who knew that being responsible to one other person could stir things up that much?

Pretty soon, you got into the routine of things, and even though things are tough, you have no idea what tough means until…

You start having children.

Are there words to describe how complicated things became when kids entered the picture??

Now wait a minute. Think back to the time when you were learning to tie your shoe. Oh, if only life were that easy now!!!

But remember, at the time, when you were six and you had to figure out how to pull the string just enough to make a loop and not enough to make a knot, it was as though the world was falling apart and it was nearly more than you could cope with.

One day, today’s challenges will look like child’s play as you learn to conquer them.

All that I do through my books and programs is to provide the tools you need to learn how to succeed in overcoming the challenges you face today. Will challenges in general go away? No.

But you’ll be prepared to handle bigger challenges, and you’ll grow in faith, hopefully learning to rely more perfectly on God in all you do.

It seems that life will only get more challenging.

WAIT!

I didn’t say life has to get worse, or even harder, but it will constantly deliver more and more ADVANCED challenges.

As we learn the laws and adopt them into our habits, we become successful at overcoming them more and more gracefully. Every challenge could easily seem overwhelming, but only relative to what we’ve conquered in the past.

Challenges are important because they help us build confidence.

Imagine a child who never gained confidence in learning something simple. What if they were required to hold office as president of a large organization? Each challenge is intended to lead us along to receive all that God would have us receive. Each is an opportunity to overcome and gain increased confidence in the partnership we are developing between ourselves and God.

You can get good at handling finances and attracting wealth. Learning to achieve prosperity is a skill that can be improved. Just as you got good at tying a shoe, this is one skill that can become a strength.

Don’t get discouraged if new challenges show up. It doesn’t mean you are failing. It means you have grown to a point where God believes you can handle something else. It is an indication of His increased faith in you.

I heard somewhere, “When you are down to nothing, God is up to something”. There is joy to be had in the struggle. As we learn to find peace in each whirlwind of trouble around us, that is success. Then, the prosperity you want begins to flow naturally.

Seek peace and prosperity comes, seek prosperity and peace flees.

Let me help you find peace, by learning the laws and principles that are dependable and sure. Click here to join me in the Mindset Mastery course – as you allow me to walk you through each lesson and corresponding challenge, your life will never be the same.

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Angela Hudson’s Graduation Spotlight

I’m pleased to announce Angela Hudson as a new Mindset Mastery Honors Graduate!

Angela is a wife and mother with four beautiful children, and is currently building a Kyani business for health and wellness.

Total Points Earned: 303

Q: What was your Phase 1 Inconsequential Goal?

Getting my Team to Win

I actually had been struggling with coming up with a mid term experiment. I would pick one and then loose interest, or pick something logical, but it just didn’t pull on my emotions enough to create it. However, one day my experiment was given to me.

My daughter plays basketball for her school team. Her team is doing very well this season, but had lost one game. Her next game was against another team that was having a great season also, but had lost one game. Normally my husband and I go to her games together, but this time he was stuck at work and I was going alone. The game was an away game for our team and as I arrived, the gym was packed to the rafters with fans. I could feel the tension in the gym as I took my seat. I was nervous and hopeful and jittery. I am not normally too competitive, but for some reason I really wanted to win this game. So as I sat there waiting for tip off, I began to pray. “Heavenly Father, please help these girls to win this game?!” But the answer came back to me, “Don’t you think that everyone in this gym is saying the same thing to me? Everyone wants their team to win. Who am I going to answer? Who wants it more?”

So I immediately began pulling my knowledge from this course and applying it (rather clumsily at first), to helping my daughter’s team win. I started with a visualization. I closed my eyes right there in the gym, with all the swirling energy around me and began to see and say in my mind, “They won!!! They Won!!!” I began to see the team celebrating and cheering for their victory. But then I was stopped once again and the council that came to my mind was this: “That’s a nice picture you’ve painted, but you have no control over those girls. They are not you and you cannot manipulate their experiences, skill or agency for your own desires of winning.” and then again the question, “How are YOU going to help ensure a victory?”

Then it sank in. I, indeed could not make them play at top level, or make their shots sink in the hoop. I could not cause the other team to fail in their equal efforts to win. If I wanted to win, then this experience had to be all about me. So once again, I closed my eyes and began a visualization. But this time it was all about me. I felt a distinct difference in the energy of this creation than the previous visuals I had tried. It was as if a portal of energy opened and I could feel the power of creation working through me. I saw me, myself standing and cheering my loudest, shouting “WE WON!!! WE WON!!!!” I saw myself running onto the court to hug my daughter and tell her good job!! I felt my feelings of victory and excitement, and I kept these with me throughout the entire game. I was only experiencing my own feelings.

The game was neck and neck for almost the entire thing. When I would start to get fearful or nervous, I would ask myself, “What would happen if they lost?” and I would be able to release the tension because the answer was “nothing. Nothing happens if they lose. It’s OK if they lose. Nobody gets hurt or dies. And if they lose, they will learn a valuable lesson because of it. Losing is good too sometimes. So I was able to release the tension I had to God and just enjoy the feelings of winning.

The game was neck and neck the whole time. With 3 minutes left, we went on a seven-nothing run and pulled ahead to take home the win!!! I was so thrilled, but had been feeling the thrill of winning for so long, that I was peaceful about it and in balance. It was so amazing!!! I really feel like I genuinely helped with this win!!!

What were your thoughts about marriage/relationships during this course?

I notice in my marriage that as we strive to become one, we are more successful when we honor our individual strengths and do not try to make the other one see/hear/learn the things that we feel they ”should” know/do.

The fact is, God loves our spouses just as much as he loves us/me and He will teach him everything he needs to know to have/give you the life that you are creating. I have seen unbelievable miracles in my marriage when I just let go of any expectation of my spouse. It frees up the energy in our marriage and I find that as I let him go, usually he beats me to the goal. God talks to him differently than he talks to me and my husband learns differently than I do. Usually when I find that I have learned something amazing and new and I try to share it with my husband, he’s says something like, “Oh yeah, I read that book last month and I learned….” and he knows it better than I do and usually teaches me. We don’t have to “do” everything together in order to be equal co-creators. We let go and let God alone with both of us and he brings us to a place of oneness and unity that couldn’t exist if we tried to make it happen ourselves.

What was your Phase Two Meaningful Goal?

It was health goal related to losing weight.

What were your fears around that goal?

Some of the fears I faced were thoughts like: I could never have a treat again, or I have to workout 2-3 hours a day. When I look back now and realize what I was really afraid of, it seems so silly and it’s funny that they were such real fears. When I read them and they don’t even make sense.

Did you Face a Terror Barrier?

YES!!! I have been deathly afraid of weighing in on the scale. I have been trying to lose this baby weight since my last son was born 2 1/2 years ago. (I have had 10 pregnancies in 12 years and my body was exhausted and didn’t want to let go of the baby weight this last time). Getting on the scale seems to be something that has dropped me to my knees in total anguish, more than anything ever has. I had just given this little square box so much power over me and my worth.  If it wasn’t a number that I wanted to see, I would feel the deepest despair I had ever felt in my life…ever. (And I’ve been through some tough stuff). Anyway, long story short…I was quietly prompted to get on that scale right as I was approaching the terror barrier section of the course. It was a wrestle all weekend about getting on that scale. I had started a new workout program so I wondered …has it been helping??? I don’t know….do I want to find out???

Anyway, Monday morning came along and I woke up feeling that intense fear of “should I/shouldn’t I?”  But a calm came over me that gave me courage and I decided to just go for it. When I hopped on, the number I saw was the worst number I have ever seen on the scale. I was 8 lbs higher than my already high number! I was sick to my stomach and immediately felt that “crumble to the ground in despair” feeling. Tears burst out of my eyes and I began to lose it. But as I started to fall to my knees, something amazing happened. A quiet strength that I had never, EVER felt before came over me and said, “you are stronger than this number. Get up and take your power back!” In that moment my heart changed. I have heard similar council from outside sources, mentors, counsellors, motivational speakers etc. But those are always coming from outside of me. This time, it was coming from ME. Me, connected to God with a more developed sense of self and greater power. I was no longer going to lose that power to something that I could smash with a hammer, something dead and clunky.  I was going to give my power to me.

So I immediately stood up. I went out to my children and spent a great morning with them, with a new joy and desire to be the real me. My day wasn’t ruined like it would have been before. And… I finally figured out that I don’t have to wait for weight to leave, I can go get myself back now. It sank in finally that I don’t have to be a victim to pregnancy anymore. So since then, I have happily gotten on the scale 3-4 times a week, just because it’s fun to see that I’m not scared any more and how silly it was for me to be so scared before. I am now trying to get the rest of me back by using the directions that are in the epilogue of the Jackrabbit Factor about weight loss and I am six lbs closer to the real me!!! 6 and counting!!!

What would you tell someone facing their fear?

That it’s never as bad as you anticipate it will be. It’s ok. It’s not as hard as you think.

How did you rank your short term goal on a scale of 1-10 in terms of difficulty? 8

If you had to rank it now? I would put it at a 3/4. It still takes awareness and practice, but it’s flowing and smooth now.

What is the longer-term goal you’re working toward?

My long term goal is to lose 40 lbs to become the person that I see in my mind and the one I know Heavenly Father created me to be. I am still in process, but yes it’s coming and I am having great success!!!  I feel like it’s within reach now and I am steadily getting there. This is huge for me to believe that I can and will do this. I had felt (before this course) that I was powerless to get this goal because of some experiences in my past. But my belief has solidified and I am finding that these principles I was taught are true and that the work is actually in keeping the doubt away. That is where I am putting my effort and as I do this, my belief gets stronger and stronger and what I want is manifesting!!!!  I can now see, completely, what I want and I am no longer entertaining any doubt that I can achieve it!!!

Course Feedback:

Thanks so much for this amazing course!!! It’s been such a blessing to see how much mental energy I was wasting before and what happens when I put it to good use. I feel very present in my life now, yet know that there is so much more awareness to come!!! I’m very excited for to continuation of this journey!  Thank you so much!!!! I’m so excited to have finished this course. I knew I wanted to finish it, but I didn’t think I would be as thrilled as I am today to have completed it.

And now Angela is an official graduate of the Mindset Mastery program! 

You have a business that helps people improve their health. If someone wants to work with you, learn from you, and improve their health in the process, where can they learn more?

I do have a website. It’s angelahudsonmpb.kyani.net
Thanks again so much!!!
Love, Angela Hudson

Congratulations, Angela! You’ve only just begun – we look forward to updates as you continue to make progress toward all your goals!

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So reader, what’s YOUR story going to be?

I want to see YOU graduate, too!

Learn more about the Mindset Mastery program HERE.

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The Mindset Mastery Program is not to be confused with the Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse.

The Fundamentals Ecourse is a powerful exploration of the principles that govern success, and takes an introductory approach for effective goal setting. It also fills the gaps to give you a basic but complete understanding of the principles, so that you have a solid foundation on which to develop true mastery. 

By contrast, the Mastery Program is focused on the *implementation* of the principles and the *achievement* of your goals. It is full of interesting assignments that take you step-by-step through two experimental goals, challenging your thought processes, helping you experience success, and setting up a pattern in your thinking that you will be able to utilize over and over for effectiveness with all of your future goals. I hope you’ll join me in one of these programs, to help you take your understanding and success to the next level in ALL the different areas of your life. Learn more HERE.

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