By Elise Adams
“May the best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows”
This is a lyric from one of my all time favorite songs, “Have it all” by Jason Mraz. He is singing to someone, giving them advice for life. He wishes them confidence, happiness and success in life. It is a peppy, uplifting song. You should listen to it sometime.
This line, “May the best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows” at first was confusing to me. Why would I want a loved one to have ‘worst’ days? Why would I wish that on anyone? It took some thought on my part to realize the meaning. Knowing about the Law of Rhythm really helped!
When we are striving to become more than we are today, our potential is stretched and our capacity increases. When we focus on creating more happiness and abundance in our daily life then we have in the past, by default our good days become better. We evolve! The opposite is true. If we stop expecting the good and working each day to bring light and life into our lives, then our ‘good days’ become less good. Our bad days actually get worse then they might have been in the past. Make sense? Our best days today, eventually will become the worst days in our future lives, our tomorrows.
Real life example? Every single day of my life since I was about 20 I have had the ‘opportunity’ to manage mental illness. As I am writing this, I am 42 years old. A few years ago I had a nervous breakdown. I did NOT see it coming. It was not something I had experienced before, at least not to that extent. I had my breakdown very early in the morning. It lasted hours. When it had all passed, I slept. I slept practically all day. I slept that night and then the next day. The (almost) non stop sleeping lasted 3-4 days. My body and mind was exhausted. I was down.
After some time had passed I found that I could do little by little a bit more. At first I could get up, help kids get breakfast, get them to school then return home and go back to sleep. I would stay in bed most of the day. When school was over I would go get the kids, bring them home, help with homework and maybe do some house cleaning. This effort exhausted me and once again, as soon as I was able, would return to bed. Usually staying there for the entire night. At this stage of my recovery my best days were definitely worse than my worst days had been before the breakdown.
As the weeks passed I gradually, very slowly began to improve. I could get up, help my children, get them to school and clean the house a little. Maybe do a load of laundry. I still could not manage running any errands. No grocery shopping for me. At this point I could function about half the day, after lunch I went to bed. I slept until the after-school chores began. I pushed through and could stay awake until my husband came home from work. I would nap a while which would help me last through dinner. Sometimes I could even go until the kids went to bed. Then I would immediately go to bed for the night.
As you can imagine this was a difficult time for me. I wanted to do more. I longed to have my best days become my worst. I was forced to give myself grace. Forced to be gentle and kind with myself. If I pushed too hard and tried too much, I would end up sleeping an entire day or more as a consequence. Much slower than I wanted, my body and mind healed. Eventually I only needed one nap a day. I could run an errand or two. More time passed and I could pick up a few things from the store without crashing when I got home.
It was many many months that my body required a daily nap. I was embarrassed but I knew it was reality. More grace. More self love and kindness. Finally I was able to go 1-2 days in a row without a nap. I felt more normal. I even planned a meal or two for my family. It has just been in the last few weeks that I’ve begun meal planning, grocery shopping and sometimes preparing the meals again. I still often take mid day naps. Mostly because I know the rest of my day will be so much better if I do – and it is worth it.
After this horrific experience I finally began to understand what “best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows” meant. When I was at the beginning of my recovery my BEST days would look like one of the WORST in my current life. As we go through life, experience teaches
us that with a season of bad, comes a season of good. With a season of good, comes a season of bad. But our good and bad are all relative and we must never forget to feel gratitude for whatever season we are living currently!
“The Law of Rhythm states that nature’s movements are cyclical. There is repetition in everything. If we’re on a down, we can expect an up. If it’s been a bad year, start looking forward to the good year coming. If it’s been a bad day, get excited about the good one just around the corner. If you just had a bad moment, begin to think about the good one that is sure to happen soon. This law is our reason for being able to look forward with certainty to God’s blessings.” (Hidden Treasures, Householder)
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