No Flow, No Go?

Picture for attention.

Do you ever feel like you could be the poster child for Murphy’s Law?  Have you ever wondered if the struggle you face is evidence that you’re doing the wrong thing?  Before you draw that conclusion, read this:

I had a conversation with one of our Mindset Mastery participants and I thought I’d let you in on it…

Hi Leslie,

…I am just really bummed out right now. I am currently attending a University course to get my psychology degree. I am taking a philosophy class which I thought I would love, but it turns out the instructor is very picky so I am not enjoying or doing well in this class.

I read once that if something is a struggle, then it is not the right thing to be doing. If I am meant to be doing something, then it should be inspired and easy flowing.

I want to be a life coach and thought that with a degree in psychology, it might make things better.

I am worried too because I am getting financial aid and if I fail this class I may have to end up paying for the class or pay loans back or something which will put me further in the hole. I am just sitting here wondering what I am doing and really very upset. I didn’t know who to turn to or even what to do right now, So I guess I just needed to vent. I am scared, lets just say that. I am at work right now, if I wasn’t I would be crying.

Here’s how I replied:

First of all, take a deep, deep breath.

Second of all, let me add my perspective on the comment, “if something is a struggle, then it is not the right thing to be doing.” I think there is some truth to that, but it’s been twisted.

I gave birth to a few kids, and every one of those labors was a TREMENDOUS struggle.  That doesn’t mean in the least that it wasn’t the right thing to do.  The truth is that ANYthing worth having is worth struggling for.  The key is to keep your “WHY” vivid and alive.  When you lose sight of why you’re putting yourself through something tough, then the pain is only magnified.  When you remember the people whose lives you’ll change forever, the passion and the dream of that expectation is anesthesia that dulls the pain.

I can’t tell you how many times my husband and I thought, “We can do anything, as long as it gets us closer to our goal, and as long as we know it’s temporary.”  We always said that about the un-fun things we had to do along the way.

Furthermore, if you give up now just because it isn’t fun anymore, then how will you ever be qualified to coach someone else through their struggles?

If I were you, I’d do what I could to remember the law of Polarity and the law of Rhythm, especially now.  As horrible as this is, is how wonderful the reward will be on the other side.  If it’s only a little bit bad, then the reward will only be a little bit good.  If things are bad today, you can expect an upturn in your mood soon enough.  Look forward to it, expect it.  Be grateful for the pain today, because it is only through that pain that there could possibly be meaning in the victory.

As for the “flow” concept, yes, things can go smoothly and you can have that peace of mind being in the flow.  But it is an internal thing.  Life will always deliver challenges.  ALWAYS.  Life mastery means finding peace of mind and assurance that everything is going to be okay no matter what.  When you live in that kind of a state of being, then the resources you need begin to flow your way more naturally.  But remember, you’ve got to achieve that mindset before it flows, and that mindset can only be achieved in the middle of hardship.  (Anyone can find peace of mind when life is going smoothly; the best rewards come from finding it when life is NOT going smoothly.  That’s what separates the winners from the crowd.)

So, in reality, your hardship right now is a tremendous gift to you – you’re being given the opportunity to prove your mental toughness and demonstrate right thinking in spite of it.  Pass the test and you leap to a new level of life success.  Without the hardship, you would have no opportunity to prove yourself, and no corresponding reward would be waiting.

Anyway, I know this probably isn’t what you wanted to hear, but I hope you find it helpful.

Hang in there – a better day is coming if you respond to this the right way.  Think, how would a champion handle this?  How would a highly successful success coach handle this?  You’ve got it inside of you to conquer this – be kind to yourself.  Do your best and let God handle the rest.  Whatever the outcome is, chalk it up to your experience that adds to the value you’ll have to offer your future clients.

Warmest regards, 🙂


This young woman quickly replied:

Thank you so so much Leslie! It means so much to me that you took time out to write me back! I love every bit of your reply. It all makes perfect sense! Again thank you so much! Just what I needed.

Now, what about you?  I’d like to help you get through those ‘stuck places’.

Join me in the Mindset Mastery program. There are now several ways to play. Procrastination is your biggest enemy – if you know you need to do this, do it now.  Your transformation awaits you! Click here to view all your options.

Leslie Householder
Latest posts by Leslie Householder (see all)

9 Responses

  1. Leslie, thank you so much for the above post, I know the laws are at work in my life because this is just what I needed right now. The best things in my life, lessons learned, were by far the hardest earned and yet I wouldn’t have it any other way because I am so grateful for them all.

    Like Monique, I usually embrace whatever comes along because I know it wont always be and tomorrow is a new day and so it will likely be gone. If you do not embrace it you are simply resisting it anyway and that does not make it go away in fact it will stay longer that way.

    While on my way to reach my dreams and as I add more onto what I want to achieve in the coming new year. Things come up for me that can be none to easy to deal with and I know that they are coming up because they need to be released and I do so.

    However the toughest issues are coming up now and I so needed to read this to help me get through it.

    From the bottom of my heart I thank you, I am very grateful.

    Blessings, Create a brilliant NoW.

  2. Thanks for this post Leslie! I have had so many struggles on the way to my dreams of getting my book published and moving into a bigger home. Your analogy of childbirth helps immensely. Joseph Campbell, the mythologist, says that when you tune into your true mission in life, the hero path you are to take, the doors start to open. That comes from connecting with God. Thanks for the reminder!

  3. I am currently working through your FTMF course and I have already helped myself and others just with the simple perspective that you’ve taught me (and that Abraham-Hicks summed up perfectly for me this week): Be Clear On Your Vision:

    “In your action, you lose sight of the vision, you lose sight of your trust in the process, and you just bang around in a sense of futility. Hold the vision and trust that the Universe will acclimate to your vision. Hold the vision and trust the process.” — Abraham
    (Excerpted from the workshop in Portland, OR on Tuesday, June 10th, 1997 #277)

    When I get stuck or can feel that things aren’t working out and I begin feeling scared or frustrated, I realize I’m trying to create only from my will, or trying to “make it happen” myself, so I just go back to my vision/goal, tune into higher self/divine will/source and ask for the next step. It’s always better!

    Thanks for your inspiring.

  4. Yes, very nice…very true. Lately when my going gets touch I embrace it and most of the time this dissolves the adversity! May I also suggest to read a book that helped me to become crystal clear about where I want to (and need to) go in my life: Steering by Starlight by Martha Beck, I wrote a small review about this book here:

    All is well, Monique

  5. Leslie, I loved the analogy you used of birthing your children. The hardest things I have been through have often turned out to be my greatest accomplishments. Thanks for the reminder.

  6. Very cool reminder, Leslie, that the laws are always at work. We can see them as our friends or our enemies. They just keep on working. Thanks much.
    Renae Pelo

  7. This was very helpful Leslie I have had some great success in my Usborne books business that was very miraculous to those who didn’t know I was doing your program. My supervisor keeps saying I don’t know how you did that. I was offended at first because it seemed she was saying she didn’t think I could do it. But in looking at it from her perspective I went from doing nothing for over a year to meeting the requirements for supervisor in 2 months. In my mind it was already done so it wasn’t miraculous to me.

    But I am now to the point of “hard work” to maintain what I earned and each show I go to I feel like I am dragging myself– I am going to remember your message, “how would a champion handle this?” and push through it. Thanks again. Because of your program I will get my first supervisor check for over $500. This is a miracle!!

  8. Leslie,

    Thank you for your reply. I also have been going through some “struggles” and I have heard the lies that if it’s a struggle, you shouldn’t do it, you’re reply to that gal has confirmed to me the lessons I was supposed to learn for the problems I have created for myself around money! Thanks again, Angie-SLC, UT

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.