Funny Story

Some time ago I was in Utah with my husband and two of my kids for a conference, and while we were there, I needed to pick up some books from Garrett Gunderson, my co-author for Portal to Genius. I love telling people about his other book, Killing Sacred Cows, and needed some on hand for a local event.

I texted Garrett while I was in town, and since it was on a weekend and nobody was in his office, my only other option on short notice was to pick the books up from his home.

He responded, “I’m out of town, so just go get some from the garage in the back of my house. We have some friends staying in an RV out front – just tell them why you’re there if they ask.”

I rounded the corner to his home and pulled up in front. “I’ll just be a minute, kids.”

The house was dark, and so was the RV, so I just went to the gate, followed his instructions on how to get in, and made my way to the back garage.  The door was ajar, so I let myself in.

A quick scan of the area produced nothing—I couldn’t find any books. So, I texted Garrett again for better instructions. He didn’t answer, so I called my husband. “Can you try to get a hold of Garrett and ask him where in the garage are the books?”

A few minutes later, he came back with, “You were supposed to do this tricky latch thing with the gate…”

“Yeah, I did that; I’m already in the garage—where are the books?”

“He said they’re in the back garage…”

“Yeah, I know; I AM in the back garage. Where in the garage are these books supposed to be?”

“He just said it would be obvious. There’s 5,000 books in there.”

I was stumped. I looked around, and I saw nothing but three cars and some tools, and a few large RubberMaid-style plastic bins—not the best for book storage, and no way there would be room inside those bins for 5,000 anyway.  I checked the rafters above me. I prowled between all three of the cars, scanning every square inch, thinking I must be blind.

Why don’t his directions make any sense? Why aren’t they producing the results he promised?

I came out of the garage and walked out to the front again. I turned around and retraced the same steps, following the directions perfectly. I prowled around the darkly lit back yard a bit, double-checking to make sure there wasn’t another back garage somewhere, and ended up back in the same garage with no greater insight than I had before.

I called Trevan again. “Honey, there are NO books in here—and nowhere to hide 5,000 of them anyway.  I’m sure if this pile of books was a snake it would’ve already bit me, but I’m stumped.  Will you call Garrett again?”

Trevan ended up calling Garrett two or three times. He told Garrett, “She can’t find them.”

Garrett responded, “I don’t know how she could miss them! Is she in the back garage?”

“She says she’s in there, and she’s not seeing them.”

To be perfectly truthful, I was getting REALLY frustrated with Garrett for not being more specific, and for not taking my frustration seriously enough to give me some useful instructions.  I felt like he was ignoring my question, leaving me to figure it all out on my own, and I was already late for an appointment and increasingly annoyed about this predicament. Why won’t he just tell me something more specific like, “The books are in the north-west corner next to the white SUV” or something like that?

Finally, after going in and out three times and scouring the place, I came back to my car and took a deep breath. Glancing up, I noticed there was another RV parked out front of the neighbor’s house next door, too.

Then it dawned on me.

I was at the wrong house altogether.  I had been prowling inside a stranger’s home; trespassing, combing their property for something that didn’t exist. Once I put myself in the right location, the instructions finally worked. I met Garrett’s house guest, did the tricky latch thing, found the back garage, and retrieved the books.

Now for the lesson. (Of course, you knew I’d find a lesson in this, didn’t you?)

Here it goes:

How often do you take advice on how to get what you want, only to find those instructions don’t produce the promised results?

Garrett promised there were thousands of books waiting for me—an abundance of what I wanted—and his instructions were perfectly accurate. The fact that I could not receive them was not his fault. The blame rested squarely upon my own shoulders for not making sure I was first oriented to the location that was supposed to be the starting point.

Perhaps you’ve found hope through various books, audios, or events from me or other teachers of success principles, but are having trouble experiencing the promised results. If that’s the case, then let’s take a step back and find out if you’re in the right starting point for utilizing those instructions, shall we?

When you don’t achieve the results you expect, “check the address.”

The Mindset Mastery Program can help. It opens wide its arms to gather in all who struggle to see results, and brings them first to square ONE. If you’ll allow me to bring you to square ONE, then from there, the program walks you step-by-step through an experience where you will get a taste of intentional success with something small, and then gives you the courage and confidence to apply the process to bigger and better things. In fact, once you’ve experienced intentional success in spite of the obstacles once, and your brain has developed those new neural pathways for success, doing it again for bigger life-goals becomes a whole lot easier.

We have countless participants who get through the program and then repeat it again, the next time for something bigger and even more amazing.

No matter where you are now, after you let me guide you to square ONE, the Mindset Mastery Program takes you to the next level and beyond. Join us from home and take it at your own pace, or if you want to go through it with a group, our next Guided class begins soon.

Get signed up today.  I look forward to assisting you!

www.prosperthefamily.com

Leslie

P.S. If you’re not ready for the full program, find out if there’s really anything “to” this by starting with the budget-friendly Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse.

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Quotes from Recent Event

Here are the quotes I promised to share with those who attended the recent event. Enjoy!

M. Catherine Thomas:

“If you wish to feel the most penetrating power of the Spirit, try the experiment of giving thanks in the moment of disappointment, of tragedy, of the specter of ruin. When you are able to do it consistently, you will feel as though you have discovered and united with the mystery of life.”

William Hutchison Murray:

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.

“All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:

‘Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!’”

Ella Wheeler Wilcox:

“There is no chance, no destiny, no fate, that can circumvent or hinder or control the firm resolve of a determined soul.”

Wallace Wattles:

“There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe. A thought in this substance produces the thing that is imaged by the thought. A person can form things in his thought, and, by impressing his thought upon formless substance, can cause the thing he thinks about to be created.”

Leslie Householder:

“Expecting Success: It’s not a feeling of entitlement, but it IS a knowing. It’s not demanding, but it is allowing. Not needing, but anticipating. Not boastful, but grateful.”

Boyd K. Packer:

“There are two kinds of faith. One of them functions ordinarily in the life of every soul. It is the kind of faith born by experience; it gives us certainty that a new day will dawn, that spring will come, that growth will take place. It is the kind of faith that relates us with confidence to that which is scheduled to happen. …

There is another kind of faith, rare indeed. This is the kind of faith that causes things to happen. It is the kind of faith that is worthy and prepared and unyielding, and it calls forth things that otherwise would not be. It is the kind of faith that moves people. It is the kind of faith that sometimes moves things. …

“It comes by gradual growth. It is a marvelous, even a transcendent, power, a power as real and as invisible as electricity. Directed and channeled, it has great effect.” (Quote by Boyd K. Packer © By Intellectual Reserve, Inc., used with permission).

To learn more about the Mindset Mastery program, visit www.ProsperTheFamily.com

 

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Thinking Counter-Intuitively in Hard Times

When times are tough, sometimes you have to think outside the box if you want to come out on top. For every conscious, principles-based response you give to each challenge, you dodge another bullet.

Here’s an example of one man who did just that, during the Great Depression:

My friend Glenn was visiting, and shared a story about his grandfather that is worth repeating. His grandfather was a banker in 1933, and in order to keep depositors from bankrupting the system by withdrawing all their money, Franklin D. Roosevelt declared a United States Bank Holiday from March 6 to March 10.

Banks were allowed to reopen when they could prove that the money in their reserves was greater than or equal to the money that had been deposited in. If the banks were unsound they would stay closed or could apply for a government loan in order to keep from declaring bankruptcy. (Wikipedia)

Glenn told me, according to his grandfather, that one out of three banks never re-opened.

Upon hearing the announcement that he was required to close his bank, and knowing the fallout that would probably happen from it, he chose to think outside of the box, and be a resourceful problem-solver, instead of shrinking into fear and victimhood. He knew that the declaration itself would create panic for many of his customers, and that when he reopened, there would likely be a run on the money.

The problem became his opportunity. He recognized a need: the people needed peace of mind, even more than they needed their money. So he contacted the top four leaders of women’s church organizations in the community, and asked them to organize a community barbecue to celebrate the holiday.

They were to get everything they needed to put on a feast, and that he would pay for the food if they would prepare and serve it.

It went off without a hitch, and when he opened his doors, nobody asked for their money back, and his bank thrived through the Great Depression.

No matter how bleak things appear to be, you can be resourceful. Look for a need in someone else’s life, and see what you can do to fill the need. Leave everyone you meet with an “impression of increase”. Leave them better than when you found them.

Fear will cause you to do things to perpetuate the problem. Thinking prosperously in the face of fear can inspire you to do things that solve the problem.

Read Portal to Genius (free!) to find out how.

Let me help you activate the Rare kind of Faith that causes things to happen in your life. Join us in the GUIDED Mindset Mastery class, starting soon! You’ll be guided through two experiments over fourteen weeks, so you can discover for yourself the power of your thoughts. For more information, visit: https://rarefaith.org/the-guided-mindset-mastery-program/

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Choosing a Date for your Goal

So you want something to change. Maybe you need more money, want to reach a business goal, or just long for better health or relationships. Can you see yourself as though you’ve already achieved it? Can you feel how you expect to feel when it’s accomplished?

These are some of the first steps to powerful and effective goal-achievement, but one of the next steps is to set a date. While this step isn’t absolutely necessary, there are a few reasons why you might want to assign a date to your goal.

Reasons to Set a Date

  1. It makes you think more seriously about actually making it happen, putting it in “real time” instead of leaving it forever in “fantasy-mode”.
  2. It keeps you focused, and helps you avoid distractions that might derail you. After all, you have a deadline now, so you’d better get working on it.
  3. It increases your odds for accomplishing it, because a goal without a plan is just a wish.
  4. When your goal (and date) is set in a certain way, you receive unseen help with getting it done.

How to Choose a Date

Choosing a date for your goal can sometimes be one of the hardest parts of goal achievement. It forces you to think. It requires you to make a quality decision, to get serious about your objective, and to think it through with enough detail to determine an estimation of how long you believe it will take to complete it.

Or at least it should. Don’t bother setting a date if it’s not accompanied by a quality decision and firm intention to stay in believe-mode from now until (at least) that date. 100%. This intention piece matters more to the goal’s success than the date you choose.

All of these factors help you effectively achieve goals and your goals can be achieved without setting a date, but if setting a date makes you do all of these things, then maybe you can see why the practice comes so highly recommended.

What if you Get it Wrong?

  • What if you pick a date that’s too soon?
  • What if you set it too far out, but it doesn’t really need to take that long?
  • What if it doesn’t happen on the date you choose?

A goal date is like a due date. When a woman is pregnant, she (or her healthcare provider) checks the data and determines when the baby is due. It’s simply a best guess based on known factors. By the same token, when setting a goal, you simply pick a date based on the known factors: far enough away to be legitimately possible, but close enough that it creates an urgency to prepare for it.

Don’t get too worked up about choosing the right date, just give it your best guess and then firmly anchor your intentions to accomplishing the goal by that date. Remember, the real benefit is that the date keeps you on task. It keeps you from getting too distracted by competing interests.

How Long Should it Take?

The good news is that your goal, like a seed, has a finite gestation period. When planted properly and nourished adequately, goals and seeds both mature and bear fruit. There are natural laws that govern the growth and maturation of all things, including goals. Although science has completely catalogued the gestation periods for all seeds in nature, we don’t know the gestation period that corresponds with all the different goals, or idea-seeds. So when you set a date, you’re really just making a prediction of how long you expect it to take for the goal seed to mature.

On a side note, I believe in miracles. I believe that things can happen much more quickly by that rare kind of faith that I talk about so much, seemingly defying the more commonly understood laws of nature. These things happen within the structure of other natural laws that perhaps we just don’t yet understand. But I am convinced that nothing happens outside of governing laws. Since we don’t know or understand all of the laws by which God governs the Universe, we can do our best to understand and live by as much of the knowledge as we’ve received. And so the objective here is to simply do our part to make sure that we, at least, are not the limiting factor in what God can accomplish in our life.  Yes, He can do all things, but how much we get to participate in those wonderful things depends squarely on our application of the laws and principles we’ve been privileged enough to understand.

Getting it Wrong Doesn’t Change the Outcome

Okay, so you set a goal and put a date to it. Are you going to be wrong sometimes? Of course you will. How often do mothers deliver their babies exactly on their due date? Does it even matter if the doctor’s prediction was not accurate? Not at all. The baby still comes! Having a date in mind simply keeps the mother on task in her preparations. The outcome doesn’t change just because the anticipated bundle doesn’t arrive on the due date. She doesn’t lament, “I guess I’m not going to have a baby.”  NO, if she goes overdue, she becomes even more convinced that it will happen at any moment.

If you set a date for the completion of your goal, and it doesn’t happen by then, don’t think of the goal-setting process as a failure. It was working just fine. In fact, even in that moment it’s still working—the goal just happens to be overdue, according to your calculations. So you picked the wrong due date. So what? It doesn’t mean you aren’t still expecting!

A Critical Moment

It’s actually your choice of thoughts in that moment—when it didn’t happenwhich are the thoughts that matter most. It’s in that moment, depending on your thoughts, that your goal will continue to develop like a Polaroid, or it will fade back into the nothingness where it began. As you continue to believe and work toward the goal, all that you need continues to gather toward you and develop until one day it’s finally achieved. To learn more about how this works, read Hidden Treasures: Heaven’s Astonishing Help with Your Money Matters (FREE).

So hold on to the dream especially when it doesn’t show up on time. Doing so keeps it coming, and if it was important enough to shoot for in the first place, it’s important enough to keep believing in it. In hindsight, after you’ve finally achieved it, you’ll realize that it truly was better late than never.

Think of it this way: if it doesn’t arrive “on time”, then it probably just wasn’t done cooking. And that’s okay. You don’t want your goal to arrive half-baked anyway. Let it finish completely. When it misses your “due date”, get more excited, (not less), knowing that it’s even closer to being done than ever, and it’s only a matter of time. Keep preparing for its arrival. Be grateful, because when it does arrive, it will be even better than if it had arrived early.

So set some goals. Follow your dreams, and be patient with the process. Change takes time, but the time it takes is worth the wait. As my Dad taught me long ago, God doesn’t always deliver when you want Him to, but He’s never late.

To learn more about the fundamentals of goal achievement, click here

If you’re well versed in the fundamentals and ready to take the Mastery Challenge, join me now in the Mindset Mastery Program. See you on the inside!

Orig

inally published August 14, 2006

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