New Graduate: Stephanie Lee

Desperate for $6000

I’m pleased to present Stephanie Lee as a new Mindset Mastery Honors Graduate!

In the Mindset Mastery program, students are instructed on the laws and principles that activate unseen help. That unseen help orchestrates resources, connections, and/or impressions that nudge the students toward all they need to realize their goal. In Phase 1, they practice what they’ve learned on an inconsequential goal – something NOT connected to anything they’re intensely concerned about. This helps them experience success without undue stress, to build the mental muscle memory they need to apply what they learn to a goal of greater significance in Phase 2.

Stephanie was already a student of the self-paced Mindset Mastery program since 2016, but didn’t quite complete it. So when she had the opportunity to join the Guided version of the program, she jumped on it. And now, here we are just a few months later, congratulating her on becoming an Honors graduate!

Rainbow, Please?

Here is Stephanie’s Phase 1 (inconsequential) goal report in her own words:

8:39 am. Good morning from water-logged Oregon! As part of the Guided Mindset Mastery group, it was time to choose an inconsequential goal. (If you have a chance to sign up for a future session, I HIGHLY recommend it!!)

I decided to not overthink it, and just see what popped up in my head that fit this criteria:

    1. It couldn’t be something I could buy.
    2. It couldn’t be something I had lost (there’s a reason and story behind this one that I won’t get in to here.)
    3. It couldn’t be something that required another person.

So, the first thing that popped into my head was “a rainbow”. That sounded fun, so I did a little journaling around it because I have been consistent in my overthinking/doubting/overanalyzing in the past…:

    1. My IDEAL rainbow is a real one, in the sky, weather related, SEEN IN PERSON.
    2. Bumper stickers of rainbows are allowable.
    3. Any other sort of manmade rainbow counts (I’m looking at you, Pink Floyd album cover…)
    4. Regardless of what kind of rainbow I see, it will stick out like a sore thumb and really catch my attention.
    5. I will log each sighting in a note on my phone.

I was having fun writing this list. …I was being aware of my propensity to doubt the way a thing shows up like I have in the past, because previously, I would only have one vision of how it COULD show up.

[But then I wondered…] Is my list of allowables increasing my chances of seeing a rainbow in a way that is in line with the principles, or is my list a sneaky way of putting demands on the laws that aren’t mine to put there? If I want to see a rainbow in real life, but I allow all the other versions to count, am I lacking faith?

…I decided to sit on the rainbow idea for a day or two, and if I didn’t feel more clarity around it, I was thinking I would change goals…

A few HOURS later…

UPDATE (already): I’m floored. 🌈

Today, at 1:32pm, I was out in the Applegate Valley here in flooding Southern Oregon with my husband. He had called me mid morning at work and asked if he could swing by and pick me up so that I could help him unload some logs he needed to deliver to a job. Here are some relevant fun facts:

    • He NEVER needs my help at his work. We like separate work lives. He’s a carpenter and has always been incredibly independent when it comes to his work. For him to call me after he has his work hat + momentum going this early in the day is so rare.
    • He rarely works with logs that he needs help moving.
    • We rarely go out to the Applegate. It’s not on the way to anything.
    • I didn’t remember this place in the picture existed and I certainly didn’t remember it having a rainbow fence.

So, considering my conundrum below, you can imagine how shocked and joyful I felt as we drove by it. I made my husband pull over across the street so I could get the whole fence in my picture.

🌈The laws are real and alive EVEN IN MY OVERTHINKING. Even sometimes very quickly! This is such a gift to me today and I am excited to keep playing with the laws. 

Desperate for $6000 / Guilt and Shame

Stephanie’s Phase 2 goal was a much bigger endeavor, and pretty big and scary to her. Here’s what she did with what felt like an impossible financial situation:

Initially, the goal was to generate about $6000 to pay my cousin and his wife their share of profits from a rental we invested in together. I had received some incorrect information that stated my cousin could not legally receive a penny of profit until his IRA that financed the purchase of the home was paid back, and that it was only going to get paid back upon the sale of the house. So, I had believed that I wouldn’t have to give him their share until the house sold (in a year or two from now).

The past couple of years brought the darkest times of my life and the hardest financial struggles. I used my cousin’s profits to get us through some emergencies without asking him. I believed I would be able to replenish it easily. Things got harder, and I hadn’t been able to repay him yet.

I learned late last year that the monthly profits COULD go to him. I was so scared and angry at myself. I knew I had used the money for needful things but it wasn’t my money to use. I felt HUGE guilt and shame. I set the goal of generating that money by June 18th this year when my cousin and his wife were here on our land for our family reunion.

Not only did I NOT generate a single penny of that, but I also fell behind in other areas financially. I really had to rely on the lessons in the Mindset Mastery program to help me know how to navigate all that. At one point I had a phone call with Trevan, my Mindset Mastery Program Guide, where he helped me SO much. The time had come where there seemed to be NO WAY the money could be generated in time, but I knew that the months of effort had grown ME in big and important ways. I needed help recalibrating my approach with the goal and what to do if the goal didn’t happen in time. (It involved other people, so I didn’t feel like the pregnant woman analogy quite fit.)

Trevan helped me realize that the goal so far had been incredibly fear-driven and that it would not be accomplished with fear as the force behind it. At least not in a way that honored my journey up to that point, and the growth Heavenly Father wanted for me. Trevan helped me see that the REAL goal was ACTUALLY to maintain a loving and peaceful relationship with my cousin and his wife.

That became my new goal.

I wrote a new vision statement around it. I imagined having the conversation and telling my friend afterwards, “That was the most incredible thing! The conversation was SO easy, and the solution to the money issue worked out in such a surprising and beautiful way that I hadn’t even thought of before!”

Last week, that exact thing happened with my cousin. He and his family were here for our family reunion. The opportunity to talk privately was really challenging to create, with all that was going on. As tempting as it was to hope it just wouldn’t happen, I KNEW I needed this to be resolved. I prayed for a window of time to easily open.

On the last day, when everyone was packing up to leave, it was much more calm and relaxed than usual. My cousin came in my kitchen to chat about something totally unrelated while I washed dishes. My heart was pounding because I KNEW this was the opportunity… I was praying gratitude for the upcoming conversation going well… for it being peaceful and easy, for me to have the right heart about it, for me to offer the solution/idea that came to me just a couple of days before [of offering him the monthly profits to make up for the lump I had spent].

He asked how the rental was going and I just spilled out the truth. But I felt SO at peace. I didn’t emit an energy of cowardice. I didn’t speak from a place of shame. I told him the misinformation I had received about the rental profits and I told him that I had used the money for needful things and that the most important thing to me is maintaining a loving relationship with them.

I told him of the idea of he and his wife now managing the monthly payments and keeping all the profits instead of us from here on out (the solution/idea that had come to me a few days before). I told him that when the house sold, we would give him any remaining money due to him from our profits. He loved the idea. I apologized for not having an envelope of cash to give him and he said with such kindness “Oh, it’s okay. I don’t really have a need for it so I would probably just spend it on something I don’t need to spend it on, anyway.”

It was the easiest conversation I could have imagined having about it. I could write and write and write about all the feelings I have and the lessons I’ve learned, but I will just stop here and say that the goal was accomplished and it gutted me and grew me in all the ways I needed for these principles to become a PART of me… not just knowledge I have outside of me.

Well done, Stephanie. This is a prime example of coming to realize that the REAL goal isn’t the money. We tend to think we need money to get what we really want – but when we focus instead on what we really want – what the money is for – sometimes those things can be achieved in unexpected ways.

I love how Stephanie used the Mindset Mastery principles to navigate from guilt and shame to hope, healing, and growth. And solutions! Her solution truly was only an idea away.

I am also impressed that even when there was no resolution in sight, Stephanie chose to believe. I can feel her faith when she says, “The time had come where there seemed to be NO WAY the money could be generated in time, but I knew that the months of effort had grown me in big and important ways.”

At the conclusion of the course, I was thrilled to receive the following message from Stephanie:

I’m feeling overwhelmed with gratitude at being able to graduate with honors. It represents profound growth and victory that I never could have imagined a few years ago.

Congratulations again, Stephanie! You’ve done an amazing job!

To learn more about Stephanie and her art courses, ebooks, mentoring, and lots of other goodies, visit her website: stephanieleeart.com. You’ll see that her website is a work of art in and of itself. I especially love her beautiful videos showing her process for creating art.

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What’s YOUR story going to be?

I want to see YOU graduate, too!

Learn more about the Mindset Mastery program HERE.

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The Mindset Mastery Program is not to be confused with the Mindset Fundamentals Ecourse.

The Fundamentals Ecourse provides an introductory exploration into the principles that govern success for effective goal setting. It also fills the gaps to give you a basic but complete understanding of the principles, so that you have a solid foundation on which to develop true mastery. 

By contrast, the Mastery Program is focused on the *implementation* of those principles and the *achievement* of your goals. It is full of interesting assignments that take you step-by-step through two experimental goals, challenging your thought processes, helping you experience success, and setting up a pattern in your thinking that you will be able to utilize over and over for effectiveness with all of your future goals. There is a self-paced version, but we also have a GUIDED version if you want to go through the lessons on a weekly basis with an expert guide. View all your options here.

I hope you’ll join me in one of these programs, so I can help you take your understanding and success to the next level in ALL areas of your life!

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Avoiding Debt-Payoff Self-Sabotage

Today’s Question comes from Allyson. She wanted to know:

“How do I visualize paying off debt, without creating a subconscious desire for MORE debt to pay off?”

In her words:

I’ve been listening to your Science of Getting Rich Program over the last couple of weeks and have a question for you.

This next year my husband and I want to create financial freedom, which to us looks like a zero balance on all the credit cards and everything paid off. What we’re bumping up against is we keep visualizing the victory with paying off credit cards, and we don’t want to train our mind into seeking more debt for that thrill of paying it off.

But financial freedom feels so esoteric to us that I am having a hard time pinning down an emotion associated with financial freedom. I’ve thought about what I want life to look like when there are no more debts, and it’s just that everything is normal, I feel secure and I sleep well every night, we are able to invest, and we’re able to pay a lot in tithing and fast offerings and so forth… but it doesn’t carry the emotional thrill that having zero debt has.

Can you help me reframe this, please? I KNOW we can create financial freedom this year. I want to make sure we’re not future sabotaging by the emotion we’re connecting to the visualization, or that we’re visualizing the wrong thing.

Thank you so much! – A.C.

Here’s my Answer:

One of the best pieces of advice I got on this was to spend energy picturing and planning the details of life “after”, and get excited about the feelings associated with normal life. But sometimes nothing else sounds quite as exciting, so I do get that it’s important to be emotionally invested in getting out of debt. I don’t know if this is necessarily the best way, but I’ll tell you how we finally did it. And I’m sorry, it’s kind of rambling without editing, so I hope it’s helpful:

We listened a lot to Dave Ramsey (which was painful at first, but eventually allowed us to get REALLY excited about being out of debt, WITH the new mindset that also kept us from sabotaging ourselves when the goal was achieved. It’s good medicine. Best of both worlds, in my opinion.

We first made a commitment to stop using credit to tide us over if we came up short in any given month. This commitment was before we tried to pay anything off, I think. It meant that we had to use “rare faith” a LOT. Every month, for a while in fact, until we started noticing that miracle after miracle, the principles were proving to be dependable, as long as we kept to the commitment and expected another miracle. …I had never realized what a shift in mentality that required for us, because we were coming from an “investing” mindset – using other people’s money to invest for high returns. (Which, we did really well at for a while, until we got caught in the recession and people couldn’t pay money that they owed us, and the dominoes began to really fall.)

We also had to get serious about budgeting. How on earth would we do that when our income was unpredictable?? We decided we’d just do our best. So it meant looking back over the year and coming up with average monthly dollar amounts for all the predictable expenses. We were barely making it with our business income, and when we came up short, I’d just run a promotion or something, so how do I budget when I’m so used to being reactionary to our needs? We got those monthly figures, and then decided on a monthly amount that the business had to make – so it meant setting up an automatic transfer from business to personal every two weeks.

This freaked me out at first because I thought, “Well, what if the business doesn’t make that much?” and “What if I don’t feel motivated to make more than the bi-monthly draw?” And the first month, it was patchy. I had to scramble to make enough before the transfer hit, which was new because I wasn’t scrambling to pay a bill, I was scrambling to pay myself.

Something about that helped with another mindset shift I needed – because I was scrambling to pay MYSELF instead of scrambling to pay a bill (even though the result was the same). I scrambled again to make enough in time for the second draw. And I didn’t really earn more than the bare minimum.

But after that first month, something felt different. I started working for the joy of it again, knowing that the draw would automatically cover my bills, and I found myself wondering how much more I could make, just for fun. Our financial planner told me to “Let the business account build up”, so no matter how much I generated, I was still only allowed to spend the fixed monthly budgeted amount. That was a new concept to me. (Because previously I was always just reacting to our needs.) So that’s what the budget did for me – it stopped me from thinking so much about bills, and helped me get back to just creating.

The next month I did really well, but still only received the fixed draw into my personal account. The business account started to grow and grow. THAT did a lot for my psyche. Out of the budgeted amount, certain amounts went to paying off bills, and as things started going better, I got a real charge out of paying off debts early. We started to get a bigger charge out of saving, too. This was a new experience for us. I made more rules for myself – like if I generated a certain amount of revenue by the end of the year, I’d give myself a bonus. Otherwise the money stayed in the business account, which was nice because then I had reserves I could use for investing more in my business – product, hired help, etc. It also made it so that the tax bill at the end of the year wasn’t a giant blow to our pocketbook – there was money saved and enough to cover the tax bill and to spare.

Anyway, we felt like step one had to be learning how to live with the new system of paying myself, and within these budgeting restrictions (something that ran counter to the “abundance mindset” – but again, it felt like necessary short-term medicine for our long-term wealth plan).

So the short answer is this. If you want to be really excited about paying off debt, you CAN. But keep it paired with a constant reminder of the principles that build a wise and solid foundation. Follow Dave’s Baby Steps. I used to think he was only about budgeting for people on limited incomes. But he’s more about wealth building – it’s just that too many people skip the steps that build a solid foundation, so that’s why he hammers that part so much. Too often I see people get caught up in the excitement about paying off debt without the education (and pants-kicking) that keeps them wise afterwards, and they get sucked back into the same problems over and over again. Pulling rabbits out of the hat to keep fixing debt problems does work, but it becomes exhausting.

So if your vision is a normal, peaceful, joyful abundant life, then submit yourself to Dave’s podcast (if you aren’t already listening to him). Like I said, it can be painful in the short term, but it’s really made all the difference for us in the longer term. It keeps us in check, and has really added to my ability to live the normal peaceful life I always wanted.

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#54: Dare to Dream

Looking for this? – Debra Woolley’s Graduation Spotlight is HERE

Podcast is below:

I waited 10 years to share this story.

This is the podcast I mentioned during my Facebook Live.

After experiencing success, then tremendous failure, I describe my family’s journey as we tried to put the pieces of our shattered life back together. I reveal details of what it took for us to dare to dream again, and the play-by-play results of my first major experiment meant to regain my confidence.

This audio was recorded at a live event called Master Creator by Eric Bailey, where I was a keynote guest speaker.

Resources mentioned on the audio:

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Madeleine’s Story

The following comes from Madeleine Blomberg from Sweden:

“I just want to tell someone: I have an issue with money and haven’t earned any for 15 years. (Fell ill – and I didn’t know how I could change that!) I am working with that now. Slowly.

“I started January 2 by giving away knowledge as a Breathing Instructor. (Did you know that is the best way to reduce stress and heal body and mind!?) Leslie tells us to use feelings and I did. (And I use some pictures/sort of a vision board to help me imagine myself succeeding. I have had a hard time seeing IN my head.)

“After one week just giving (created a small Facebook group) I had an offer. A man was willing to pay me for the work I already did. (2000 Sek/month. Over 200 Dollar per month for the next three months!)

“It went well.

“April: He wants me to write on his English Facebook page and site (welcome to visit Conscious Breathing!!) and I get 3500/month.

“This is absolutely wonderful. I cannot live on it though, so I try to Ask for More (and feel as if it is not possible and true.) Not the man. God. He who tells me to “give to the poor.” So I guess he means he is not unwilling to let me have money!

“I ask for double the money in May. 7000. In simple and in various ways, [it happened!]

“I am there now! …

“I just realized that I had a goal to double what I earned last month, [and] I REACHED IT!

“I am not self-reliant yet. I have loads of “holes” in my bank account. But this is a lovely BEGINNING!! Right?” – Madeleine Blomberg, Mindset Mastery Program participant

Congratulations, Madeleine! And you’re right. It IS a lovely beginning!!

Learn more about the Mindset Mastery Program at www.ProspertheFamily.com

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It’s not how much faith you have

“We don’t need to maintain perfect faith… We just need to show integrity toward the faith we do have. And then, through the Lord’s mercy, our mountains are moved.” – Daniel Blomberg

I received the following from a reader and thought it might help someone. So here it goes:

Hi Leslie,

How are you? …I still read your newsletter, and I still share your books with other people at any opportune moment. Hope things are going well for you and your family.

I just wanted to share a journal entry on the subject of rare faith – see below.

We just had a business miracle in April, and it merited a long journal entry—I want to remember this forever. Hope you enjoy it. Feel free to share if you think it could help someone.

Have a wonderful day!

Daniel

Background: We got back to Utah from the Middle East in August 2017. I tried life coaching and loved it, but it soon became clear that the Lord wanted me doing music—a very happy but scary proposition. I did my first songwriting session for a client in April 2018, and in March this year, after 19 months as an entrepreneur and 11 months in music, I was able to provide for my family exclusively through music for the first time.

It has been a grueling time, with way too many trips to the Bishop’s storehouse, lots of help from family, lots of advice to go get a job, and way too much self-doubt.

So after our March miracle, I was determined to keep this going. When the end of April came around and I still hadn’t made nearly enough to pay the bills, failure was just not an emotionally sustainable option.

What happened next is described below.

Journal, 2019-05-01

This is a precious thing that just happened. After March’s wonderful achievement, where we for the first time were able to make more money in the business than we needed to pay the bills, I really wanted to keep this going every month. Partly so we can prove that we are financially ready for the foster-to-adopt process, and partly because I need to know that I can provide for my family through music.

This month, I felt like I should take the time to build an online presence. Allie told me she wanted to build me a website for free! So I wrote some website content. And then Colleen wanted to tell people about me online. So I quickly bought a domain and put out the content, to have a place to send people while waiting for Allie….

Then, I felt like I should start running Facebook ads. So I did. It takes a few weeks to dial those in, so I haven’t seen any specific results from those yet. But I had to put together a business Facebook page to run ads from, and I didn’t want it to have 3 likes and look unprofessional, so I invited pretty much all my friends to like it. It crossed 100 page likes in the first 24 hours, and now has over 300 page likes, in less than two weeks! 🙂

Spending this much time building an online presence meant that I didn’t chase specific results a whole lot. I did read the sequel to The Go-Giver, Go-Givers Sell More, and learned to trust that as we give value to people around us, and not give sales pitches, most of our sales will come from “left field” – the 99% of the Universe that we have no idea about, but which God knows all about.

Come Sunday, which was April 28, I realized that we needed $2,485 more, plus Venmo and PayPal instant transfer fees, to cover April’s bills and buy my ticket to Sweden for Victor and Jessica’s wedding. So Monday morning, I set out to sell that much in services in two days. Technically, I realized I didn’t need $560 of those until May (the rest of the plane ticket), but I had my sights set on the whole sum.

On Saturday night at Allie and Zach’s wedding reception, I had mentioned to my client Greg that I would be going to Sweden for my brother’s wedding if we could swing it, and he had generously offered, without me asking, to prepay $700. That’s why we “only” needed $2485, or $1925 plus $560. I fasted on Sunday for help to achieve this big and worthy goal, for the sake of our family, including our future children.

A key piece of learning had also come on Saturday morning, as I went running with Vinicio. I was in a time crunch, and needed to complete 8 miles in about 90 minutes. I remembered as we ran and talked that Elder Holland teaches:

It’s not the amount of faith we have that is the issue, it’s the integrity we show toward the faith that we do have.

In this way, even partial faith, if shown integrity, is enough to move mountains. This applied to our running. I wasn’t sure the whole time that we would succeed, but I showed integrity to the faith that I did have by keeping running and not giving up. We finished on time. I felt that this principle should also apply to my big sales goal.

On Sunday afternoon, we got a text from Stephen and Emily, who asked if we wanted to come over, last minute. (We later learned Emily had felt a prompting to invite us over, kind of forgotten it, come home from some Church assignment, and her kids said, “We want the Blombergs to come!”)

We went, and had a lovely time. Partway through, Steven and Emily’s new neighbor, Amy, came over. Emily had invited her to come over that day, but not at any specific time. Amy, who had very recently felt that it’s time to pursue her music, was fasting and had just woken up from a nap. As she knelt to conclude her fast, she felt, “You’re not done yet. Go next door.” We talked about her music, and exchanged phone numbers. I had an appointment with her and her husband Tuesday morning, and she will be in Dave’s studio in July! 🙂 Wonderful news, but not any closer to the April goal.

(finished writing on May 10)

Since April 23 had been my one-year anniversary of returning to the music business, I had a 10% discount for all songwriting and production services until the end of April. As Shawna had 9 hours scheduled for May, I asked if she wanted the discount. She sent $688.50 on Tuesday, April 30.

With $1,853 left to reach my goal, and only a few hours left, I decided that the responsible thing to do for the business and my family was to swallow my pride and tell a couple of clients exactly why I needed the money. The foster-to-adopt process requires that families have “a little extra” money, and I felt we could claim that if we paid all our current bills and saved 4% in the business profit account. We did in March—time to achieve that goal again.

So I asked Art, who had scheduled a songwriting coaching session for his stepson for early May, if he would be offended if I asked for a prepayment so I could get it on the books for April. He prepaid $500.

I re-crunched the numbers, reducing for example our food and gas budget posts to actual money spent, not what I thought we needed for a month, and moving the plane ticket purchase to May. All of a sudden, there were only $39 missing. Or $44, if you consider that I had felt prompted to cut the car payment short by $5, even though I really wanted to pay in full.

So, while Kathryn and I were waiting to meet with a member of the stake presidency to renew our Temple recommends, I sent a message to Colleen, who is on a mission with her husband in Côte d’Ivoire, told her we are really close to our revenue goal to qualify for adoption, and offered to do her next song (a $170 value) for $60 if she wanted to prepay.

5 hours before midnight.

No reply, as she would likely be asleep until 11:30pm our time, or so I thought. (I was actually an hour off – Côte d’Ivoire was only 6 hours ahead of us, not 7.)

All things considered, a very successful two days of sales, even though we were still falling short. Kat and I went to bed at 9:30pm, and in our night prayer I thanked Heavenly Father for all the amazing success, and then poured out my heart and asked Him why:

How come we were so close to the goal, but couldn’t just have made $39 or $44 more? What was I supposed to feel and think about this?

After our couple prayer, I said my own prayer and laid down. But I felt like I should call my mother instead of sleeping. (This is significant, as I have felt for years that the Lord wants me to go to bed by 9:30pm.)

So I got up and talked to my mother in Sweden for almost an hour and a half – not much about the business goal, but about anything and everything. Towards the end, I got my answer—gratitude.

I was supposed to feel gratitude about what had just happened.

So after the phone call, I went to bed again, and laid there for a minute just feeling grateful. Then I considered some options. Would Heavenly Father want me to contact Colleen again? I decided to, and sent her a PayPal request for $60 in case she was interested, and then a note in Messenger to please ignore it otherwise. Pretty bold, I guess. By now, it was 11:35pm.

As I wrote the note, I saw that she had just read the previous message. She replied “For sure.” “It’s 5:36 here.” “We’ll get it done in the next 10 min”.

Turns out, she never gets up at 5:30am, but had decided to start the new month with an extra 30 minutes of scripture study – it was already May in Africa, but still April in the U.S. And so, with 8 minutes to spare, $60 arrived in our PayPal account, and the goal was met.

I cried with joy, told my sleepy Kathryn the great news, and went to sleep a very happy man.

We don’t need to maintain perfect faith the whole time. We just need to show integrity toward the faith we do have. And then, through the Lord’s mercy, our mountains are moved.

Daniel Blomberg is a Mindset Mastery Program Participant.

Learn more at www.ProsperTheFamily.com.

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