By Beckie Dragon
“Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.” James Allen
As I think about that which I have been, I was a person with a poor self-image. A person that didn’t feel like I was capable. Other people could, but I couldn’t. I held myself back. An attitude of, you can’t change it so just deal with it. Expect others to take care of me, I couldn’t do it on my own. I was constantly beating myself up and didn’t feel good enough.
To illustrate “that which they are” and show how I was, I will go back to my college days. My first night I cried myself to sleep. I was scared and alone and I lacked confidence. I somehow managed to get enrolled in classes and classes began. It didn’t take long to get discouraged. It seemed the harder I tried, the harder it became. I was failing and I saw no way out. This was a very slippery slope. There was no hope. This brought a great amount of guilt and shame. I believe guilt and shame are the lowest vibrations there are. I’m not sure how I made it through that year, and I didn’t go back.
Sixteen years ago in July, I was praying for a way to supplement our income. A week later I was talking to my brother and he told me how someone had loaned him a “sleep system” and how much better he slept. I didn’t think anything of it, but after I hung up the phone, I heard that familiar voice in my head (not my voice) that said, “This is the answer to your prayer.” I had to call him back to learn more. Then I was telling an influential person about it and he said, “You are not the right kind of person to do that.” I actually cried myself to sleep that night already giving up on my answer to prayer. Thankfully the next day I had the thought, wait a minute, he can’t tell me what to do. The peace came and I moved forward again.
Later my husband and I went to a mentor for help and within one minute he said, “Well, I can already tell you what your problem is. It’s your self-talk.”
My goal in my business was to build a successful team to help lots of people and reach the top, but no matter how hard I tried I continued to struggle with negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions, not believing it was possible for me.
I am grateful I can now see how these negative thoughts feelings and beliefs have affected my life. I am also grateful to know that according to Bob Proctor, as quoted by Leslie Householder, “a ‘feeling’ is nothing more than a conscious awareness of a particular vibration.” It is up to me to choose the vibration I want to be in.
It seems that gratitude is indeed the key to turning a negative vibration into a positive vibration! When I read “The Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace D. Wattles, I really began to see how gratitude works. He says, “The more gratefully we fix our minds on the Supreme when good things come to us, the more good things we will receive, and the more rapidly they will come; and the reason simply is that the mental attitude of gratitude draws the mind into closer touch with the source from which the blessings come.” It is easy to be grateful when we have what we want. The trick seems to be in being grateful for where we are and what we have now, and feeling grateful for what we want before we even get it.
One other quote from Wallace D. Wattles that really hit me is, “Also, faith is born of gratitude. The grateful mind continually expects good things, and expectation becomes faith. The reaction of gratitude upon one’s own mind produces faith; and every outgoing wave of grateful thanksgiving increases faith.” I am grateful for that insight because it has helped me understand how to exercise faith. Being grateful has also helped me be more positive.
I am a work in progress, and I continue to pray every day for help to be more positive and to see myself as God sees me and for the ability to see and feel what I have and what I want with gratitude. I am working to attract to me that which I am in a positive way!
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