“When I Have a Choice–I Choose My Dream!”

Meet Heather Backman:

I am so excited to introduce you to Mindset Mastery Honors Graduate, Heather Backman! Heather is one of our Rare Faith facilitators, but for now, she and her husband with their 5 young children are traveling the world for twelve months, doing the Worldschooling curriculum, and documenting all of their successes, challenges, and experiences through their YouTube channel. Our facilitator family misses Heather, but we are all so excited for their family adventure!

As I normally do, I had some questions for Heather:

Q. What was your experience with the Phase 1 experiment? (The “inconsequential goal”)

I wanted to share my midterm with you all. At first I chose something really simple that happened in a matter of 15 minutes.  After manifesting it so quickly, I then decided maybe I should make it a little more “midterm” quality. I decided to go for something that took a little more “unseen help.” And for me it was this:

I had a random $200 phone bill show up that was from 2 years ago on an account I opened but never used. At first I thought it was a fraud letter (because it was from a “collections agency” but decided to look into it just to be sure). Come to find out it was legit. So, all I needed to do was call the phone company, let them know it was a mistake and get the charge removed. Well, since it was a mistake that happened 2 years ago, boy was it a fiasco to get things figured out. Supposedly after all this time I never saw the bill because the company had the wrong address. Come to find out later, this bill was passed from collection agency to collection agency over the past two years until this one finally figured out the address was wrong. When I called the phone company, I was passed around from person to person, department to department and no one could figure out what was going on with the account. Some said the account didn’t exist, some said the account could be handled by a different department, others said, it was too old and nothing could be done. I played this ring around the rosies game for about a week. One of the days I was on the phone for 1hr 45mins!! It took a ton of my time and I knew I just needed to talk to the right person and it would all be taken care of.

That’s when I decided, “Hey! This is the PERFECT midterm project…Let’s Jack Rabbit this thing.”

I then decided to picture myself looking at the bill feeling so relieved we didn’t have to pay the $200 and the collection agency case was closed. I got excited and could feel the relief of it all taken care of and done!

She got excited! She felt the relief of it all taken care of before she even made the phone call. The greatest indication of knowing a goal will be realized is being able to feel it before it has happened.

Now my demeanor changed a bit. When I was on the phone, I was even more calm, collected, and no blame was involved in my speech whatsoever. 

Notice here where she said that her demeanor changed. Her circumstances hadn’t changed. The people on the other end of the phone had not changed, but she had changed how she was handling the situation.

Instead of playing the run around game I politely asked to speak to a manager (even that was a run around) but finally I was able to talk to a manger and she was very kind a gracious and said she would work on it right away but it might take 10 days to get back to me. “10 days??” I thought, but then instantly calmed my heart and trusted, that it didn’t matter if it took 10 days, all that mattered was that the matter was taken care of.

It’s often easy to get caught up in our own timeframe, which can lead to frustration and lack of belief, but Heather remained calm, trusted, and remembered that the result she wanted was the bill taken care of, and let go to allow the Law of Gestation to decide the timing.

Next thing I know about 2 hours later, I got a message from the manager saying that she was able to work with the collection agency and everything was all worked out and to call if I had any further questions!

“What? Done already? Boo ya!!” I thought! I felt so excited for how quickly the turn around was and how quickly it was all resolved. That definitely took unseen help to not only make things work, but to happen that quickly. 

If you ever see or hear me referring to “the squeeze”, this is what I’m talking about! Heather stopped squeezing, remained gracious with those she was working with on the phone (even though they were causing her understandable frustration), and let go of her time frame. In doing so, what could have taken 10 days took a matter of a couple of hours. 

(If you want to learn more about “the squeeze” and how to let go, check out our upcoming Genius Bootcamp schedule here.)

It felt like a miracle especially after playing so much run around for a week. I was so relieved and so grateful that I chose to apply these principles to this situation. It was so perfect! Thank you Leslie for sharing what you learned so we too can have success!!

Way to go, Heather! Big or small, applying these principles DO create miracles, and we are so happy to share in yours!

Q. What was your bite-sized Phase 2 “difficult, meaningful, or important” goal?

It was to reach out to a specialist who can help me with my autoimmune and put me on the path for finding a diet that I LOVE that help me not only lose 5-10 lbs but most of all to help me rid my body of pain and inflammation.

Q. What happened?

I am excited to share with you my bite-sized goal. I chose to reach out to a hormone and nutrition specialist to help me not only lose weight but also help me find a way of eating that I LOVE that would help me eventually rid my body of an autoimmune disease and give me the health and vitality I desire for my life.

This was crazy hard for me because I have done SO MANY different dietary changes and plans to improve my health, and the thought of doing another one made me want to curl up in a ball and cry and not come out. I have already given up so many of my favorite things to eat in pursuit of health, that the thought of even taking away more was emotionally collapsing. But my health was quickly declining. I was trying to avoid even looking at my health. I just wanted the problem to go away and so I distracted myself with entertaining other exciting goal ideas for this class but as time went on and things began to decline I knew I had to tackle this one.

So after mustering courage I chose in! I spoke with a specialist, I felt good about what direction she felt would be good for me, and I am now 2 months into a 4 month program and I will tell you I AM AMAZED at what has happened! In the beginning of setting this health goal, I was hoping to lose 10 lbs, but then I retracted down to 5lbs because it was more about my state of health rather than the amount of weight loss. Well, as of today, I am down 22.7 lbs!!!  And still losing! I am amazed!

My inflammation has gone down, my pain has gone down, I have energy, and I look and feel so much better! The biggest part of this is wanting to find a way of eating that I LOVE because it feels depressing to say no to so many food items. And guess what? I have loved this way of eating. It is very quick, very healthy, and tastes great! I even found some sauces that I LOVE that enhance this way of eating to a whole new level! I am so happy and grateful for the profound results that have come from this experience! I would have never expected to be almost down to my “pre-5 babies” weight. It is so exciting and exhilarating to me. And I am not even done with the program yet! What an incredible blessing!

Sometimes our goals aren’t just scary because they feel out of reach, but because without achieving them we know that the quality of our life will be affected, such as Heather feels here about her health. These can often be the “scariest” goals to pursue, and I’m so proud of Heather for choosing in!

Q. What was your experience facing a fear from assignment/lesson 18? How effective were you at being able to think truth in spite of appearances?

I found that as I wrote out my fear, then wrote out what I would do if it actually manifested itself, I was quite surprised to feel so much more calm come over me. I could see that if my fears were to happen, that there would be benefits for me to learn and that I would continue on in my pursuit with new growth. Thus, I could see that if I chose fear, all would still work together for my good. BUT! When I have a choice – I CHOOSE MY DREAM! Both choosing in fear and faith can reap benefits as long as we continue in righteousness. BUT, when I have a choice, I CHOOSE FAITH. I would much rather put in the faith required to manifest my dreams, than reap the lessons from living in fear. So as I saw what my results could be if I chose fear vs if I chose faith – it made it WAY easier to choose into Faith and Truth!

There is much to be learned from what Heather wrote here. We can find lessons and blessings even within our fears, but how much more good do we reap when we focus on our faith and dreams, acknowledging the lessons in the fear, rather than trying to find the lessons within our fears and missing out on what we would actually achieve by choosing faith?

Q. Did you experience a Terror Barrier Breakthrough during the course?

Yes! Ann taught me that the Terror Barrier doesn’t have to be near the end, it can be at the beginning. And in this case, it was at the beginning. Why? Because the thought of actually starting another diet and health plan just made me want to curl up in a ball and cry uncontrollably. I have already eliminated so much from my diet, how could I do even more? I kept avoiding it, trying to set other goals, but I knew I had to do this one. It was blaring me right in the face. So, I finally just did it! I committed, I pushed through and I am so glad I did because I have reaped benefits that are far beyond what I could have imagined. 

Heather shared a powerful epiphany about fear and the terror barrier in our Facebook community:

You know how sometimes you learn something over and over but it doesn’t hit you until it hits you? Well, I had one of those experiences this week.

It totally dawned on me that FEAR is a GREAT indicator that I SHOULD move forward. It finally hit me that when I face a terror barrier, the reason I am facing that barrier is because “the oppositional force” does NOT want me to progress. So therefore when I hit the terror barrier, it is showing me that there must be something really cool for me on the other side of that for “the oppositional force” to take such interest in sending paralyzing fear my way. So now I realize WHY I should turn Fear into FAITH, ACTION, and especially, EXCITEMENT!!

Fear is now Liberating – I see it and use it as FUEL! I see it as, “OH! Hello Fear! You’re showing up? I guess that means I should walk right into you! Thanks for showing up and showing me exactly what TO DO!

AH!! So liberating! So exciting! Thank you Leslie for teaching me about the Terror Barrier!

“Fear is now liberating.” This is a great perspective!

Q. What would you tell someone who is facing their fear right now?

Don’t let go! There is so much hope and happiness on the horizon as you continue in faith. Fear is just an illusion. It is the fear of the unknown that keeps us trapped and stuck. As you see the end result and feel what it feels like already done, it will put you into the vibration of having it now and you will literally attract it sooner. Don’t allow fear and doubt to rob you of the good that is rightfully yours! You are more powerful than you know. Your mind, and body, and spirit are the beacon, the tool, that will bring whatever you desire to you! Hold the faith! See it done! Feel it done! And stand back and watch the power of Heaven move things towards you in the perfect way and timing that is perfect for you!

Thank you for sharing your experiences of just how powerful it is to choose your dreams! Well done and congratulations!

If you want to watch Heather and her young family in their world education adventures, go follow them on their YouTube channel at Our Backman Family.


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