There’s something I want you to know about Wendy Bunnell’s new book, Success Through Failing.
My first memory of Wendy Bunnell, the author of this book, was when she entered a contest to win a free ticket to my Genius Bootcamp. She was already a diligent student of the Mindset Mastery program, and her application stood out, for an interesting reason, and yes, she won.
Now she is a best-selling author, and hosted a powerful event called The Success Summit!
Anyway, about her book:
(This is from my Foreword)
Nothing makes you feel better about your difficult circumstances than when you can see them from a 10,000-foot view. This kind of perspective can reveal hidden benefits, solutions, and even disclose profound meaning contained in the hardship. Even your gifts, opportunities, and blessings can remain concealed until you step back and see a much bigger picture.
As soon as you realize you’ve been looking at your life through a peephole, and discover the wealth of relationships, resources, and knowledge waiting for you on the other side, the door bursts open and you can finally begin to live your life with greater purpose, strength and fulfillment.
Individuals who suffer with broken lives can heal, and most wonderfully, they can thrive. I dare say that they even have the potential to thrive more gloriously than those who do not first endure such difficulty.
As you’ll soon see, Wendy Bunnell has hit the nail on the head with this groundbreaking collection of narratives, “Success Through Failing.” A captivating read, this anthology of raw and real true-life stories from twenty-five brave women provides that very perspective. It shows you where you and your life’s experiences fit in this world of pain and confusion, and inspires you to take your place, so you can ultimately discover and fulfill your own unique mission.
Sixteen years ago I experienced my first major breakthrough after enduring years of chronic failure; and there are few things more life-impacting than feeling the contrast between these two poles.
My husband and I had suffered through setback after setback, disappointment after disappointment, practically to the point of wondering what was going to hit us next. Not only have we been targets of thieves and victims of fraud, but we also experienced multiple job losses, significant medical crises, car accidents, late notices, overdraft fees, and of course, more debt than we could handle. We just couldn’t get in front of it.
A run of misfortune such as ours makes a person wonder if that’s just the way life is supposed to be.
In our attempt to solve the problem, at one point we held multiple jobs, attended school, and tried to build a business, all while raising our young family in a tiny basement apartment. I remember being thrilled to find leftover food in trash bins at office complexes where we performed midnight janitorial services. We drove a 1969 Volkswagen Beetle in the 1990s (before it was cool), and for a time we slept on a box spring without a mattress. We reluctantly received government assistance during my pregnancies, but never let go of the belief that there had to be a way for us to support ourselves.
We just wondered why we seemed to be the only people we knew who had to fight every day just to survive.
In our longing for a way out, we searched for a shortcut or windfall, which would balance out the injustice in one fell swoop, and finally make us equal to those who lived above our version of dysfunction.
Our search led us to various mentors, books, and over one hundred seminars. At one point, we flew across the country for training (on credit) with a can of corn in our backpack and a plan to sleep in the rental car all weekend. Unfortunately, when we got there, our credit card had no room left for the rental.
Our relationship was strained, our self-confidence waned, and our belief in better times ahead required regular resuscitation.
One thought kept us going though. It was the idea that by our thoughts we could change our lives.
After all, that’s where everything begins. No building is ever built without first a thought. Nothing is ever said without first thinking of the words. No crime is ever committed and no glory is ever achieved without first the idea of it being planted between the ears. So if this was true, then surely there had to be some way of thinking that would put our lives onto a better path. Thus, our quest centered on studying people who were living happier, more successful lives, and how they thought.
And when the breakthrough finally came, I had to share what we learned, because it all finally made sense. It’s what drove me to write three international best sellers and create experiences like Genius Bootcamp and the Mindset Mastery™ Program to bring others up to the 10,000-foot level. I wasn’t looking for a career; I really just wanted to be a mom. But waking up showed me that I had something valuable to offer because of my hard experiences, and so do you.
This kind of awakening is the same reason the authors in this book came together to share their stories with you now. Pay attention to how they think. You’ll find a common thread through each of their experiences: every single breakthrough occurred after a shift in their thinking. Watch for (and make note of) those subtle moments, as you read what is contained in the pages to follow.
I have tremendous respect for each of these women who faced and conquered insurmountable odds. These are remarkable women who were given some of the worst of the worst kinds of life challenges, and who somehow discovered within themselves that power, which likely would not have been uncovered in any other way.
The beautiful thing about this work is that it underscores and gives proof to the fact that every one of us has the same hidden spark, the same potential for greatness, the same access to unseen power that stands ready and eager to assist us, as soon as we’re ready to put it to use.
If you stop to think about it, there is no feeling without a change of state to some degree. Our skin doesn’t feel warmth unless it understands cold. Our face does not feel wind unless it remembers the sensation of still air. We can’t feel happiness until we’ve also experienced misery. There is no hope unless we’ve first felt despair. There is no joy without first sadness; and, as this work brilliantly illustrates, there can be no success without failure.
The truth is, no matter what you’re facing, there is no need to despair. Once you see what these women have seen, once you feel what these women have felt, once you awaken to what these women will reveal through their stories, and once you pause to consider the possibilities that await you, too, you will already be on your way to a life that is more happy, rich, and fulfilling than perhaps you have ever known before.