Nicholeen Peck helped my family many years ago, before we ever met. She was on a reality show on the BBC called “World’s Strictest Parents”, and I learned some important things from her unusual approach to parenting. “Strict” is a misleading word. Watch her fascinating episode here:
But now she has a new book on Roles. They define our rights, obligations, responsibilities, beliefs, and even who we are.
And if you purchase her book on SATURDAY for only $.99 (ninety-nine cents!), you can be part of the cause of helping it achieve best-seller status. You could say, “I was there, and helped with that! And I got some great information out of the deal, too.”
Here is an excerpt from her book:
How well do we each understand our respective roles? How do we teach our children about proper roles? How would the problems children and parents face change if they better understood roles? Aren’t parents — whether aggressive, passive or assertive — always defining roles anyway? Why do we see the roles in today’s world wrapped around so much confusion and debate when it’s impossible to escape roles?
When I sat down to write this book, those questions were my key source of inspiration. I know that God is a God of order, not confusion. Beliefs have crept into our culture about the so-called proper roles of mothers, fathers, children and individuals; and these misguided beliefs have slowly distorted the way God intends roles to be. In fact, these incorrect, false beliefs and intentions are now wreaking havoc upon society’s roles — and it’s tearing apart families, workplace corporate cultures, and communities.
The purpose of this book is to show how the roles in families set the stage for all of the roles in society. The current and ongoing debate about gender roles in society wouldn’t even be an issue if the roles within families were working properly. When roles are working properly within families, families have a vision for where they’re going, an understanding of who they’re supposed to be, and a passion for their divine purpose.
Ultimately, all those points are what you’re about to see acted out and explained in this book. I felt the best way for me to teach you about proper roles was to do it via story.
Jerry and Janet, the parents in this story, as well as their four children and the co-workers in Jerry’s office, were all suffering from an identity crisis. They didn’t know who they were supposed to be and how they were supposed to act in their given roles. Why? Because there were too many confusing messages in their lives. What’s more, the adults in this story were never taught proper roles in their homes growing up. How could they perform their roles, let alone teach the next generation their roles?
Confusion regarding roles disappears when family members live their respective roles correctly. When roles are lived as they are meant to be, families and work environments will not only be happier and more united, but also more productive and efficient.
When most people hear the word “roles,” they immediately start to feel uncomfortable. Society has groomed us to think that roles are somehow narrow and box-like. Many people think of roles as stereotypical lists they must somehow conform to. In an effort to break out of perceived roles boxes, many family members have simply exchanged one role for another, and entered a new, much more unfamiliar box.
Adopting a new role is not the same thing as “roles freedom” (i.e., freedom within roles).
If you lay all roles biases aside and genuinely observe the roles discovery in this book through realistic relationships and life problems, new insight will be gained. This new insight will enable you to find more success and happiness in your life. It will also help your relationships.
When I was a young mother, my husband told me that he would not stop me from doing everything. He said that he had observed that women nowadays want to have children, raise them, run the home, and be breadwinners. He said he would allow me to do that if that was what I wanted. He kindly said he wouldn’t stand in my way. I could do whatever I wanted.
As I analyzed what I really wanted and what would make me feel the most fulfilled, I realized it was to live my roles as mother, wife and woman. I didn’t want to do it all, even though I could and had been doing it all. I wanted to do what was most important. I wanted to do what I felt I was placed on the earth to do. My life has been one continual blessing since I made that decision. I am more fulfilled now than I ever was when I was trying to do it all. No one is meant to do it all.
For years my spirit has been kicked and poked and prodded to write and release this book. When I first started teaching people about self-government — and how to teach themselves and their children how to create happier families — I took for granted that people knew and understood the power of roles.
Roles are a power. They prepare us to live securely and happily. They also help us to spread happiness and to support and love each other — as well as promote relationship freedom. Too many people today are in emotional and relationship bondage. Understanding roles is a vital secret to breaking away from that bondage and finding the relationship freedom and personal power that awaits us all.