By Harmony Harrison
Are you willing to believe that there’s good in everything? You just have to find it.
This, in a nutshell, is the Law of Polarity. Like the Law of Attraction, it’s one of many universal laws that govern our lives.
To use the Law of Polarity to our advantage, we have to know that all of the circumstances in our lives are neutral. It is up to each of us to define our perspective. We have the power to choose to find the positive, or to feel overwhelmed by the negative. Each is a perspective; each is a choice. We can make this kind of choice each day. Some choices are minor. And some choices stand out as life-changing.
Several years ago, I left a small company for a contracting job that doubled my salary. I dreamed of those bigger paychecks. But I failed to dream of fulfillment and good relations with my new co-workers. On the new job, I replaced someone who had sown anger in the department. I became heir to her legacy of distrust. Information was deliberately kept from me, and I was hit with hostility.
Within six weeks, the situation became unworkable. My contracting company pulled me from the job. Still, I maintained an honorable status with them – they sent me out on interviews and talked me up to clients.
But that wasn’t the perspective I chose. Instead, I focused on how awful my previous assignment had been, and how I hadn’t measured up. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was truly vibrating in accord with the dissonance on that job.
Pretty bad, huh?
I was also preparing for my wedding. Freshly unemployed with a large mortgage that my fiancé and I could no longer afford, I felt stressed to the point of breaking.
There’s something about a wedding, though, that leads you to dream of a better life – especially when that wedding is your own.
As I was fitted for my gown the week before the ceremony, I looked back on my workplace havoc. I knew I couldn’t go back to that career. It sucked the life out of me, and I wasn’t willing to do it anymore. I started to wonder about my life ahead.
Right then, knowing how much I hated my work, I chose to believe that my career meltdown was good! Maybe the meltdown could free me up to do what I really wanted to do. I chose to believe that my husband and I could have a life where I didn’t have to work at a job I hated. In fact, maybe I could pursue my dreams and find meaningful work that I loved.
I didn’t return to that career. I started over. This decision led us through a tunnel of anxiety and change as we began married life, but I chose to believe that it was okay.
Soon afterward, my new life vision began to crystallize. We sold our home and moved to the country, far from the corporate life I’d lived before. Here, we’re both building work we love.
My husband and I are living that dream I dreamed, and I’m now dreaming bigger than ever.
It wasn’t always easy. I often forgot my positive perspective, so I went through lots of emotional storms to get here. But I always got back on track. I worked hard to find the good in everything, using the Law of Polarity to my advantage.