By Angi Bair
Is it good or is it bad? Or is it good, better, and best? Nothing is inherently good or bad. Things just are. It is our judgement and determination that define whether something is good or bad, if something is better or the best. Everything in the universe just is.
The Law of Relativity states that nothing we experience is fundamentally good or bad. It is how we compare one situation to another that defines whether it is good or bad for us. Bad things that happen to us are only bad relative to something we believe is better.
For example if a person loses their mansion and has to downsize into a 2000 SF home is that bad? Or if a person who loses their 2000 SF home and has to downsize into a 500 SF mobile home is that bad? Or if a person who has to downsize from a 500 SF home and is now homeless is that bad? Each experience is relative to our determination and belief system. The homeless person probably thinks the 2000 SF house is a mansion, while the person living in a mansion feels like a 500 SF mobile home is practically homeless.
We can use this universal law to help us stay positive and moving forward in achieving our goals. We must learn to feel gratitude for what we already have and the law of relativity can help us do this. By comparing our situation to something we define as “worse” we can see gratitude for the situation we are in.
This is not to be confused with comparing ourselves to others and feeling bad because we have “less” than what we think they have. This is a tool to define gratitude and to reach for peace and happiness in our own lives and experiences. The homeless person can find gratitude in the cardboard box or tent to protect them from the elements, just as the person in the mansion can find gratitude in having a roof over their head and modern living conveniences, heat, electricity, and running water. Neither experience is better than another, it is unique to each individual person. We all have our own experiences and path for growth. We define the relativity of OUR individual experiences, NOT in relation to other people’s experiences. Instead of complaining we have no shoes, be grateful we still have feet.