I’m pleased to present Denise Wallace as a new Mindset Mastery Honors Graduate!
You may remember Denise from an article I wrote about her back in September. She had already achieved two goals (one about getting a fridge, and the other about having $4000 in savings) after only a few weeks into her lessons:
Read more about her early experiences here: Our Thoughts Do Things
Anyway, all that was when she was just getting started. But now she’s full-on graduated with Honors, and has quite a bit more to say about her latter experiences in this program.
Enjoy the recap, in her words:
Wow, what an amazing year! I started this course in May and completed it in November. Only 6 months!! I set out to achieve a particular goal that I had been working on for 3 years, and found myself realizing that that is not what I wanted.
This course helped me to find my passion and purpose. It helped me realize what I truly want in life, and to reset my path to be more aligned with being home to raise my boys. It also gave me the courage to do something different and speak up about things I am passionate about.
Following the principles taught in this course also helped my family find a home that is more suited to our family and lifestyle, and brought us from a less desirable neighborhood to one that is perfect for raising my boys in. I am so excited about all the new possibilities that this course opened up for us.
On Breaking Through a Terror Barrier
I don’t know what it is about me, but when I am afraid to do something, it affects my whole body. I start to sweat and my whole body starts to shake uncontrollably. I have always backed down from doing something if this starts to happen, but I realize now it is just a terror barrier and my body is trying to keep me in the safe zone. So I experienced this as I was doing my Live Facebook posts, and the biggest one was when I applied for [a certain] Scholarship.
For some reason I have always had thoughts that achieving stuff like that just does not happen to ordinary people like me so I don’t even try. As I applied for the Scholarship it was so hard for me to submit, but I finally just hit the “send” button. I almost had to have my husband do it for me. I was shocked at how much fear I had just doing that and how my body was reacting.
Even after I sent the application off, I had to work really hard to keep my thoughts calm. and not allow them to go to negative thinking. I kept myself very busy… anything to not allow myself to sit and ponder. Every time a negative thought would come to me I had to work really hard mentally to switch my thinking around. Lots of deep breathing activities and uplifting conversations with myself, along with fun music and lots of time spent being present with my kids.
I did get the scholarship and am so grateful for this experience that I had. [It] was worth all the time, money and lessons learned on breaking through a terror barrier.
I felt like a liar
I have never in my whole life allowed myself to sit and dream about things, or imagine what life could be like with this or that. I watched my parents struggle, and just thought that if you want anything in life you have to work and struggle and hopefully catch a break. I have even made it very hard for my husband and my family to dream about things, because in my mind it was a waste of time to dream build. “Just go to work,” were my thoughts.
The last 3 years my husband and I have struggled to really get our business up and running. We have gone to seminar after seminar. Put up vision boards and speak affirmations daily, but I never really understood why I was doing this, I always felt like such a liar saying these things to myself, and never allowed myself to really believe I could have or achieve the things on my vision board.
I really related to Leslie when she talks about all the speakers saying, “Dream big, think positive, speak the things you want”. Like her, I just thought, “Yeah yeah yeah, [but] what are the steps to do the work?”
…I read Jackrabbit Factor, Hidden Treasures, Portal to Genius, (and I even went through the Mindset Fundamentals E-course) before I started studying this Mindset Mastery course. The laws have been my A-Ha, and Leslie has done an amazing job at teaching them to me in a way that I am finally understanding how it all works.
I was only half way through this course, and it already provided huge breakthroughs for me. … This course … helped me to … appreciate and be grateful for my husband, children, and other family members. It … helped me raise money for my father. Helped us get into a better home, and on a path to financial freedom. I understand now why we have struggled so much with our business. I am so excited to apply these principles and laws along with my new mindset to our future goals.
I did not die!
For lesson 18 I felt inspired to do a Facebook live, teaching how to Slay Dragons and how this helps my family keep positive daily. I experienced all the sensations of fear before starting my live feed. My whole body started to tremble, I started sweating, my heart was racing. I honestly was terrified. It took me many tries of recording myself over and over again before I could actually do it live, but after I completed it I had several people respond on how the information was helpful to them. I found out I did not die and I ended up doing 50 days of Facebook live posts along with recorded videos, called 100 Days of Joy. I just reported daily on what I found joy in each day or how I turned a negative situation and changed my perspective to find the joy out of the situation.
I made it to day 50 then took a social media fast. It did get easier to speak live each time I did it. But my nerves tried to take over every day, and I just had to push record and go before my brain tried to talk me out of it. I am finding that I have a voice and I have information that others need and want to hear. I never had anyone say anything negative to me about my posts, but I did have a few people comment and thank me for speaking up about whatever I said that day.
My Midterm Experience
As I was thinking about what to choose for my midterm goal, I immediately thought of my 5 year old son. His birthday was coming up and he asked for an electric train set. But he did not want just any train set, he wanted one with lots of tracks and accessories. As I started looking at them, I realized they are $500 or more. So I thought this would be a good inconsequential goal, after all, if I did not find a train set, I had other ideas to fall back on.
I immediately started visualizing the train set I wanted to find for him. I saw his excitement playing with it, and felt so much joy and thankfulness for finding such an awesome train set for about $100. A couple days after visualizing the train set, I decided to go to different yard sales and see if I could find a used set. Nothing.
A few days later, I had some free time, and knew I needed to get his present ordered soon before we headed out on vacation the following week. So my husband and I both started searching some online stores and a few buy, sell, trade sights. I then thought I would check Ebay again. Last time I checked everything was way over budget, but this time I found one seller that was selling multiple sets put together, there was enough trains, tracks and accessories to build a whole big town, and it was only $120!!!!!
I could not believe it, I felt so much joy and gratitude the tears came. This was the hardest goal for me to continue to believe in. I had to constantly reject any negative thoughts about finding a train set and replace the thoughts with joy and gratitude, but the train set came 6 days after I first visualized it and felt gratitude for it.
I am still in awe over the whole experience.
Adjusting the Goal
My [original Phase 2] goal was to reach the rank of paid as 12K in our health business. …I did not accomplish that goal, but I did accomplish paid as 3K status in our business 3 months in a row… a stepping stone to 12K. …I realized [my original] goal was a lot bigger than a one-month goal, and I needed to make more sub goals to reach it.
I had to stop saying my goal statement 70 times each week, because I realized it was frustrating me too much the closer and closer I got to the end date of my goal. I was not able to feel excited about reaching 12K, every time I read it. I just felt defeated and struggled to feel the happiness that it would bring me.
As I have reached other goals, I have found that for me, I need to allow myself to feel the excitement and joy and gratitude, visualize it being accomplished, then leave it at that and go about my business and my daily routine.
(We talked about this at Genius Bootcamp, I thought there was something wrong with me until you mentioned YOU had to take down your vision board for a time, and also that you don’t count your profits after each event, because it sets you back. I have the same problem, the more I look at the facts, the harder it is for me to believe it is going to happen, so I just visualize, feel gratitude, ask, and go about my business.)
In lesson 21 I realized I did not want to pursue building [my health business] anymore. After going through this course, I realized that the purpose of that business has been accomplished for me at this time.
I have other dreams and desires that I feel are more aligned to my purpose. I am still figuring it all out, but as soon as I let go of the goal of reaching 12K again, I had a strong impression to get myself to Genius Bootcamp. So that was my next goal.
Back in October I had spent some time visualizing myself being at the bootcamp, and I saw myself sitting in the class and learning from Leslie. I was excited and felt very grateful to be there. I had resigned myself to waiting until summer of 2019 or when we move back to the mainland.
When I saw … another bootcamp for the end of November, I started looking into flights and found that I could get cheap flight for that weekend and presented it to my husband. He did not agree and said to wait after the holidays. …We figured we could spend about $1000 for me to go. So I … tried my hardest not to think about it again until I got the confirmation that I [had the help I needed] to go. As I was looking for flights, over night the prices dropped from $800 to $600, and with our military discount at the hotel I was able to keep our right about $1000. I was even able to attend the evening VIP dinner.
…This course has given me so much more insight. and given me so many lessons learned than I could ever have expected. I have reached many, many other goals using the process taught here. (We even found a more suitable home for our family using this process…)
Again, Congratulations, Denise! You’ve done an amazing job!
What’s YOUR story going to be?
I want to see YOU graduate, too! Learn more about the Mindset Mastery program HERE.
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