By Harmony Harrison

Are you open to the idea that there’s good in everything—you just have to look for it?

That, in essence, is the Law of Polarity. Like the Law of Attraction, it’s one of many universal principles quietly shaping our lives.

To harness the Law of Polarity, we have to recognize that our circumstances are neutral. What gives them meaning is the lens we choose to view them through. We can decide to search for the positive, or we can get buried in the negative. Both are valid perspectives. Both are choices. And we get to make that choice again and again. Some decisions are small. Others? Life-changing.

Several years ago, I left a small company for a contracting role that doubled my salary. I’d dreamed about those bigger paychecks. What I didn’t dream about was fulfillment—or healthy relationships with my new coworkers. I ended up replacing someone who’d left a trail of resentment behind her. I stepped into her role... and inherited her legacy of mistrust. Information was withheld, and I was met with open hostility.

Within six weeks, it all fell apart. The situation became so toxic that my contracting agency pulled me out. Still, I left on good terms—they kept sending me on interviews and spoke highly of me to potential clients.

Sounds like a win, right?

But that’s not how I saw it. I focused on the dysfunction I’d just been through and how I hadn’t “measured up.” I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was fully aligning with the chaos I’d just escaped.

Rough, right?

To make things more intense, I was also preparing for my wedding. I was suddenly unemployed, staring down a mortgage my fiancé and I couldn’t afford. The stress was suffocating.

And yet... there’s something about planning a wedding—especially your own—that sparks dreams of a better life.

The week before the ceremony, as I stood in a fitting for my gown, I thought back on all that workplace wreckage. And I had a moment of clarity: I couldn’t go back to that career. It had drained me. I was done. And in that moment, I chose to believe my career meltdown was good. Maybe it was exactly what I needed to break free and make space for something better.

I started to believe that my husband and I could build a life where I didn’t have to stay stuck in work that drained my soul. That maybe, just maybe, I could chase what I truly wanted—a career with meaning.

And I never did return to that old job. I began again.

That choice took us on a wild ride—through stress, change, and uncertainty in our first year of marriage—but I held onto the belief that it was all part of something good.

Eventually, the pieces started to fall into place. We sold our house, left the corporate grind, and moved to the country. We began building lives—and careers—we love.

Today, we're living the dream I once barely dared to hope for. And now, I'm dreaming even bigger.

It wasn’t always easy. There were plenty of emotional storms, and I didn’t always keep the positive perspective. But I kept returning to it. I made it a practice to look for the good, again and again. That’s how I used the Law of Polarity—not as a perfect formula, but as a powerful guide.

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